(Closed) Do you get mad when people speak in "other" languages around you?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 137
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748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsPanda99:  I don’t listen to other people’s conversations, so I can’t imagine caring what language they were speaking in. I find other languages beautiful and fascinating though, so I suppose I’m not the demographic that would be complaining. It’s no one’s business what you’re talking about anyway. There is no reason for them to understand what you’re saying to someone on the phone.

Post # 138
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336 posts
Helper bee

That guy was crazy.  Expecting somebody to be able to speak your language is crazy, especially in a city like Toronto. Assuming they must be talking about you is silly and pretty self-centred as well (the world doesn’t revolve around you buddy!).  Why would you talk about some normal guy you ran into anyway?  Plus, you weren’t speaking to him.

Post # 139
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354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

No way!! I grew up in a household where we spoke/speak 5 languages, so I’m all about mixing it up. There’s nothing wrong with speaking a different langauge in public. The only time I would think it was rude is if you were in a group where you all but one or two spoke English as well as a foreign language, and the ones that DID speak the foreign langauge were going on and on, leaving the non speakers out. Haha, does that make sense?

Post # 140
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453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

As far as strangers go, I don’t see why I should be entitled to listen in on their conversation, so I don’t see why it matters what language they are speaking. If I were listening in, that would be rude on MY part whether they were speaking my language or not. As long as they aren’t staring, laughing, or pointing at me while speaking in another language, I don’t care.

Now, if it’s in a social group and two people start speaking another language, then yeah that’s kind of rude. It’s similar to someone answering their phone and blabbing away in the middle of an outing: you’re just standing there, unable to contribute to any kind of conversation, listening to a conversation you can’t really follow.

Post # 141
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1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I love listening to other languages! The only time I find it rude is if I’m part of the conversation, and the people speak English but are choosing to say certain things in their language. That’s when it comes off as rude to me. Someone speaking another language on public transportation wouldn’t bother me at all! I also speak another language and I usually find people who are just interested because they don’t recognize it…it sounds sort of like English but not quite, so it throws them for a loop.

Post # 142
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647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think it’s pretty obvious when people are talking about you in another language and when you’re just talking to someone. I was reading a huge reddit post the other day where someone posted about eating at a Mexican restaurant where the girl did nothing but trash him to her coworkers, complaining about having to wait on the fat white guy etc in Spanish and he waited until he was finished and asked for the manager, in Spanish. I’ve also heard an interview where these Canadian guys were in the US and speaking in French to eachother about how hot the girl in the elevator was and she turned around and thanked them as she got off. It’s those types of stories that breed paranoia, that being said my friend always answers the phone and speaks to his family in Spanish around us or he’ll run into someone and have a short conversation and it’s never bothered me.

Post # 145
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1063 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

@MrsPanda99:  your response was awesome. he opened that door! forget that major dbag who had no business even talking to you.

 

 

side note, i used to work at a restaurant where everyone else who worked there spoke a language i was completely unfamiliar with. i didn’t hate it or anything, but it was very boring to never get the joke and to be out of the loop on everything. (had to quit that one, for many reasons!)

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