(Closed) Do you gift money at a wedding?

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Do you gift money at a wedding?

    Yes (50-100$)

    Yes (100-150$)

    Yes 200$+

    No (please explain what you would gift)

  • Post # 46
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I am Irish/Scotish/English/French and I ALWAYS give off a registry.  I have never given money accept a few months ago when his brother got married and they ASKED for money, which IMO was tacky…..

    Post # 47
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    Helper bee

    Before I met my other half, I just did gifts off the registry.  However, he was a money person.  He swears it wasn’t just an out from having to go gift shopping and trying to wrap it (or paying someone to wrap it), that it is more the norm here in the Mid-Atlantic-Northeast area.

    With the two of us together, we’ve done a combination for one wedding and just cash at another.  For the combination, it was because we knew their registry and picked up about $50 worth of bowls for them.  Then, he also gave a card with $75 in it at the wedding.  For the second, we had no idea where they were registered and kind of knew that money would be more useful so he gave them $150.

    I will warn on giving money, always make it a check if you can. I had a friend who rented out an entire bed & breakfast for her wedding, so no one was in the building expect for the owners and her family.  By chance, someone broke into the house while they were sleeping and robbed the main rooms.  Unfortunately, that included her card box.

    Post # 48
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I prefer gifting money, but it’s all relative. You give what you can, and in proportion to what you can afford etc. You know the money will be appreciated by the couple far better than another set of dishes that they have no use or need for

    Post # 49
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @spaneshal:  But if they registered for that set of dishes then they want that set of dishes, LOL

    Post # 50
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    @Ms. Gertie:  Exactly. I only registered for things I actually want, and they are things it will take me a decade to acquire on my own, and in the meantime, everything won’t match. I feel like cash–which will be appreciated–will quickly get spent on the honeymoon and on paying ourselves back for the wedding and on living expenses without us even realizing how fast we’ve gone through it. (I say this form experience, having been married once before.) So most of the cash probably won’t go to completing the registry, which is what most people who give you cash think you will do with it. I mean, you’re supposed to tell the giver in your thank you ow you spent that money, and I can’t imagine writing down, say, “We paid three months of our electric bill with that generous gift. Thank you!” But I feel like the reality is that most people end up using the cash like that.

    Post # 51
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @mrsSonthebeach:  that is too damn funny!  I feel like I might be too traditional too.  I don’t need much but I do need china.  I wish I could tell people, just get me my damn china, LOL

    Post # 52
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We usually give cash cause we find that it’s easier.  Most of our friends that got married already lived together, so this way they could put it towards the purchase of a home which is getting harder and harder to do in the Vancouver area.

     

    Post # 53
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    In my family its common to give a gift at the shower and money at the wedding–same with hubbys family. On our wedding day, we had 2 gifts to open, the rest was cards in a card box.

    Post # 54
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

    I was raised by an Irish mother.  We buy Waterford off registries.  🙂

    If there is no Waterford, we go for the china.  I like giving something for special occasions, that probably won’t be worn out or tossed during a redecorating spree after a few years.

     

    Post # 55
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    Im lebanese…so we do money. But I prefer that! it is so helpful to the bride and groom and saves time…im possibly the most undecisive person when it comes to gifts

    Post # 56
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @mink:  Yeah I was raised that you go off the registry also.  

     

    Somebody said to me use the $$ from your wedding on your honeymoon….I thought to myself, your family (my FILs) are cheap bastards, you aren’t going to give us a dime, LMAO….so how can I count on money you won’t give me 🙂

    Post # 57
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I like to give a physical gift, Fiance has always done money in the past. 

    I think it kind of depends on the situation and how close I am to the couple.  I like giving a gift, especially from the registry, because that’s what the couple WANTS.

    Post # 58
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Sent from my Android

    Post # 59
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    Honey bee

    No – I give a gift off the registry.

    Post # 60
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Another one raised to buy a gift off the registry. And to ship it ahead of time, never bring it with me.

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