(Closed) Do you give a gift when you ask someone to be your maid of honor??

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
931 posts
Busy bee

So far I was very casual about asking my two attendence, both Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaids. Im slowly asking them as I see them….and Im not being overly fancy. Im lazy I guess. lol. I guess low key is more the right word!

Post # 3
4232 posts
Honey bee

You don’t have to give them anything. The new trend is to do these elaborate “bridesmaids proposals” where you get them gift baskets, cards, or propose with a ring pop. It’s fueled more by Pinterest than actual etiquette. I’ve been in a few weddings and was asked either by phone or through text- not a big deal and I definitely did not get a gift just for being asked!

The proper way is whatever you’re comfortable with, honestly.

Post # 4
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club

ClaudiaKishi:  +1

I think giving a gift is more about fun and less about etiquette. I also think that Pinterest has had a big influence on this trend.

I gave each of my girls a compact mirror in a decorative box with a small card. Thinking back on it now, I might have skipped the asking gift and put that money towards their bridesmaid gifts. 

I would follow the trend that is popular for your crowd. My little circle likes to do little gifts so I felt like I should keep up the trend.

Post # 5
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I did cards for my bridemaids and MoH, you don’t have to at all though but I thought it was a nice touch to do so especially as two of my bridemaids don’t live close to me (one in Australia!) so closest thing to doing it in person. 

Post # 6
2946 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


diana11206:  You don’t have to do anything other than ask.  The gift thing like PPs said is very pinterest/wedding industry inspired.   If you are excited about getting people gifts, go for it.  I don’t like the trend so I didn’t. 

Post # 7
2118 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I did, but it isn’t necessary. It definitely is a fun and cute gesture, but it really is up to you. I really like the new trend of proposing to bridesmaids so that’s what I did. They loved it and it really made the moment fun 🙂

Post # 8
720 posts
Busy bee

I did it for all my bridal party but only cause I wanted to. I don’t think you have to at all though. I got them a bracelet and I diy the boxes. 


Post # 9
4885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You don’t have to, but I think a lot of people do these days.

I’ve only been a Bridesmaid or Best Man once, and was just asked. I didn’t expect to get anything.

When I asked my sister (MOH) and Future Sister-In-Law (BM), I bought them a mini bottle of champagne, some nail polish and a lip gloss. I also got them a card that asked them to either be my Maid/Matron of Honor (personalized for sister), and then a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Both loved it, and I’m still made at myself for not getting a picture!

Post # 10
439 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I just asked them when I met them for dinner one night (separetly).

Post # 11
9793 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I painted these cards for them and sent with a letter or asked the local ones in person.

Post # 12
3785 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

No I definitely didn’t. I think everything wedding is getting a little out of control!

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