Post # 1
Im just wondering how truly honest everyone feels they are being on here. I have read so many threads where people are saying how wonderful the person looks, and I understand everyone has there own opinion but sometimes I just think (dresses imparticular) are sooo ugly and/or just look awful on the person and I dont say that because I would just feel rude. So I guess the question is are you honest on these threads? and if you havent been, then what about?
Post # 3
If you post “just got my dress; so excited!” and I hate it, I don’t post.
If you post “give me honest opinions on this dress, please” and I hate it, I’ll tell you I hate it (in not so many words).
Post # 4
If I LOVE the dress on a girl, I will tell her so.
If I think she looks fairly good in a dress, but it’s a style I personally hate, I usually just stay quiet.
If I think the girl looks really bad in a dress and she’s looking for advice, I’ll tell her that I think she could find something more flattering.
If I think the girl looks awful in a dress that she’s already bought and in love with, I quietly move to the next thread.
Post # 5
Yep…. If I like it I say, usually with what I like about it, if I don’t like it I don’t say anything… if there’s a poll with “another option/don’t like” I’ll pick it, but no need to share the words (I guess) lol
Post # 6
Im honest when I think its constructive. I see dresses I dont think are the most flattering or bm gifts I know I wouldnt want but I don’t see the point in saying anything if the item has already been purchased and the bride is happy about it.
Post # 7
If I don’t like somebody’s decor/idea/dress, etc. I just don’t post.
Therefore when I do post, I am true in my statement 🙂
Post # 9
I usually try to pick out the thing I like and then be tactful about what I don’t like. If I hate everything I don’t say anything.The Oreo method you know 🙂 frame your criticism with two pieces of praise.
There are definitely times when I read a thread and think, “Woah, people really like that/think that looks good/would do that?” etc. But I guess there’s no accounting for taste sometimes. I hope there aren’t people who outright lie. I’d rather be told the tactful truth than lied to outright.
Post # 10
@GreenEyedMoon: <– that. Lol. I’m not going to be rude or harsh, but I’m not going to blow butterflies out my you-know-what, so if I don’t like it I just leave it alone usually. I’ll vote honestly though if there is a poll. Sometimes I like dresses on bees that I don’t personally love the style of – you can tell when something just works.
Post # 11
I don’t think there’s a point in telling someone you don’t like they something if they like it and already bought it. If someone asks for an opinion though, I give it, even if it’s negative… but I try not to be harsh
There are a lot of dresses on here that aren’t my style. I’m sure that’s true for everyone though. I do think you can still tell if something looks nice on someone even if it is not your style.
Post # 12
I agree with GreenEyedMoon I am pretty much the same way. I don’t want to hurt peoples feeling for no reason. I think there is always a tactful way to say something. But I never lie just to make them feel good. That would defeat the purpose of me posting to begin with and I wouldn’t want somebody to do that to me. When I ask for opinions, I want real, honest opinion. But, written as tactfully as possible if it isn’t a positive one.
Infact, the outrage and negative opinions regarding my live fish centerpeice made me decide not to do it! I can only imagine the thoughts I would get from guests if everybody on here were just nice and told me what they thought I wanted to hear… I am greatful for people pointing out the negatives! That is what I wanted. Honest, unbiased opinions!
Post # 13
yes, i do. i function along the same lines as sailor.
Post # 14
It really depends on the situation.
If I have absolutely nothing nice to say, I try to just move on to the next thread and not comment.
If someone hasn’t bought the item yet and is asking for opinions, I might try to steer them in another direction.
Now, on more controversial topics, I will state my opinion and stand strongly with it. But as far as dresses, centerpieces, invites, etc goes if I don’t have anything nice or constructive to say, I’ll move on.
Post # 15
I’m honest, but if I don’t like something I try to be nice about it. haha.
Post # 16
Yes I do give honest opinons, even if someone doesn’t want to hear it. I try to be tactful and not hurtful on it. If you are going to ask me if I like or don’t like something I will tell you the truth.