(Closed) Do you give blow jobs? May be TMI!

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Do you and your SO go down on each other?

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  • Post # 77
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX

    I do it for him…only with forplay, never to finish….I have TMJ so my jaw might lock up if I am not careful! I hate being going down upon though.

    Post # 78
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2005

    Oral is amazing!  There are so many different techniques you can try and movements.  Also, receiving oral is mind blowing.  So silky and wet….. tmi….

    Post # 79
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    im lucky and selfish ::guilty smirk:: he goes down way more than i do, i dont know i just dont like it and he knows me so he knows its not my top fav things to do so itll happen but not to finish i try working on it but its just hasnt changed sorry poor Fiance. lol i love this topic

    Post # 80
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I have always loved giving them, but I feel really, really bad to say that I don’t enjoy going down on the fiancé. Our sex life is amazing, but he’s not a marathon guy. When we get going, it’s a few minutes of seriously intense sex and then he finishes. He ALWAYS makes sure that I either do first (oral) or after (oral, vibrator, whatever), so it’s not a problem. But I really like using a blow job to get things heated up, turn us both on, make him want more, but he enjoys it so much that he’ll finish before we get to sex itself and I find that to be a huge letdown. I LOVE sex with him and I find myself really hesitant to do something that will take that off the table. 

    There’s a sense of control, a power struggle with oral sex. Not a sadistic one, but kind of a competition to either make these sensations last a long time before orgasm, or making the other person lose control and have an intense finish. I admit that that’s lacking when I know that I’ll “win” by making him orgasm in a very short period of time, but “lose” because then intercourse is a non-option for a while. And at that point, the mood kind of passes by. I feel really guilty that I almost never go down on him, considering how much I’ve always enjoyed it with other partners. I need a way to get past it. 

    Post # 81
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

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    @ellisrobertson:  Most guys find it so stimulating that it’s hard not to finish. Maybe he can stop you when he gets close and you can do other things (your turn!!) for a bit. Build him up again and let him stop you again and he’ll gain control this way. Or, if you have a sense of how far along he is, just do it for a short time, let him cool down and then build him up briefly, stop again, tell him what you want him to do with it and get him inside you. He should be able to build up some endurance this way and you’ll both get what you want.

    Post # 82
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I like going down on him to start with, it makes me excited and ready just as much as it does him. He won’t have me finish that way and I can’t complain with that! When you don’t have to deal with finishing, to me, it’s really not bad at all. I love his reactions 🙂

    Post # 83
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I do not. He used to get them on birthdays & Christmas but that has since ended. I don’t like to give them & he has accepted that. 

    Post # 84
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Not a huge fan of the giving part but will do it to make DH happy…only finished once and that almost made me throw up all over him. As I have gotten older I am more willing to do them, but DH doesn’t exactly man scape regularly so nothing’s worse than man pubes in the mouth…tmi sorry made myself gag…oh that’s another problem, terrible gag reflex (I gag when I’m brushing my teeth). As for receiving, I would actually prefer him going down to me than sex..,he is just so damn good at it! Besides this minor set back, there is nothing that is off limits in our bed room. 

    Post # 85
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Yes, I like blowing him. He’s actually slightly smaller than average, which I prefer because during sex he doesn’t hurt me, and during oral it feels better for him because I can almost get the whole thing in my mouth without suffocating myself.

    He mostly gets them when I’m on my period and don’t want to have intercourse.

    Post # 86
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Yes I enjoy it too. He was never able to finish from one before he met me. I dont know if thats a good or a bad thing lol. I go down on him more during that time of the month then any other time really. 

    Post # 87
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    For MONTHS Alex went down on me almost everyday, but he wouldnt let me give him a BJ. Then finally he let me, and now if we’re not going to have sex, but he’s turned on then he’ll ask me to. I dont mind it as much as I thought I would, but I get nervous everytime I do it. XD

    Post # 88
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

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    @harleyq:  lol, That sounds just like us.

    Post # 89
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t give him oral and I hate getting it so no. I told him that from day one.

    I did it back in high school and it was always so boring and it always grossed me out.

    Post # 90
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I love going down on him, and he’s the first guy I’ve been with that I’ll say that about. We usually only do it as a part of foreplay, though, unless he’s really stressed out and I just want to relax him. I do a hybrid BJ/HJ thing…it really gets me going to get him going, to the point where sometimes he doesn’t need it, but I need to give it, lol. 

    I’m pretty so-so about receiving, though. Sometimes it’s great, sometimes it’s just okay. I really need penile penetration + clitoral stimulation to get off, and he just can’t give me that with his mouth. Sometimes it clicks without the penis part, though, and it really gets him going to do it…

    Post # 91
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    Sometimes i like it better when he goes down on me and fingers me more than sex. Feels amazing and i don’t have to do anything 😀

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