Post # 1
I was thinking of this today.
When talking to other brides, say close friends, family members (who are getting married) do you give away your bridal “secrets”?
Such as where you are buying your invites/stationary, decor that makes your wedding unique, places that you are going for your dress, places in general (online or in-store.) This is of course assuming you have not gotten one or any of these things yet (or have been there yet in some cases), would you be worried that another bride would “steal” your ideas?
I know, it is caddy sounding. Some of you might not care, some of you might if you helped a fellow bride out (who has a wedding date before you) and you go to her wedding and see your same ceremony programs, same guestbook idea….You get the jist, it doesn’t have to be these things that I listed.
Has this ever happened to someone? How did you handle it? Did you ever suspect another bride of using your ideas? (i.e. ideas that were specific to your wedding? Unique to you as a couple?)
How hush-hush do you keep your wedding details to other brides?
Remember, I am just curious, something I was mulling over for funsies today.
Post # 3
I’m in a bride group here in Seattle and we share secrets/tips all the time. I think the reality is we all want very very different weddings and so it’s not really an issue.
I guess you’re aiming more for those with close friends who might have the same guest list? Otherwise even if a friend “copied” who would know other than you?
Post # 4
Oh I over share with my friends I’m sure. And I’m totally happy to share withother girls on here, or pintiterest, or FB or……….
Post # 5
It depends on the detail & who I’m talking to… some stuff I’m happy to share our ideas, others I’m keeping close to my chest. Or I just be really vague about.
In my closest girlfriends – there’s 4 of us, A who is recently married, B is engaged (we’re all in her bridal party, 9mths before my wedding) and C who is bound to get engaged to her bloke any time, & me. We go to wedding expos together, swap ideas etc. While I’m not giving all my secrets away, I find our married friend has good tips about vendors & prices arond town & we find ideas for each other.
Between B & I – we have pretty similar interests etc but I know our weddings are going to be very different, so I’m not phased about sharing details. I mentioned I wanted paper kusudama bouquets – she put me onto an Etsy seller that does funky paper quilling hairpieces that I’ve ordered!
In my case, the sharing is good but I still wanna keep some surprises & mystery… 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia
I would say I’m actually more apt to share with other brides here on the Bee than I would with my friends in real life. Not because any of them would “steal” my ideas, but because I would like some aspects of the wedding to be a pleasant surprise for my guests.
Not everyone cares about all the little details like I do. So, for that reason, I try to keep it on the DL.
Post # 7
I was planning at the same time several friends and family members were planning and I shared everything. I was glad that I did, one of the dresses at the top of my list was the dress that a neice was going to wear…dodged that one. Some of us saved some cash by sharing deals that we had seen or sales.
Post # 8
I share heaps on here, but IRL? To some people yes, other brides have asked for lots. The girls that are getting married before me i get abit weirded by when they ask my idea for say favours but ehh
Now the girl i work with (who isnt engaged) thats a different story…
When i printed off information for our honeymoon she photocopied it and said to me a week later that she was taking holidays in November to THE SAME PLACE, HOTEL, EVERYTHING
Post # 9
It’s workmates I’m most guarded around. I give some vague ideas to the few girls I’m inviting, but randoms who are not on the list – they get shutdown! I’d be scared to get gatecrashers in town, but to follow you to the honeymoon?? Crazy!!
Post # 10
I’ll share anything because I’d want to help someone find what they need if I can! I wouldn’t care if someone copied me because it’s not like it would be a 100% original idea anyways, I doubt that much of anything you see is. So no one has ownership over it.
Post # 11
I really didn’t mind if people copied me on some things. We were weird enough and profligate enough that no one would copy everything.
Post # 12
@Pokemon: Weird! One thing we kept secret was our honeymoon destination. It was in the same state, and Darling Husband was paranoid about mutual friends being there. I always thought he was being silly, but then I read what you wrote.
All the rest of the details, I told anyone who asked. If someone copied me, I would have regarded it as flattery. One girl used our reception venue a few weeks after us. We weren’t at each other’s weddings but there were some mutual guests. I was just pleased I could help her.
Post # 13
I’m not one of those brides who take great pride in coming up with creative, outside-the-box ideas for her wedding, so I share and share and share. I guess if I had a really cool idea for something I’d be more picky about sharing it, but all my ideas are pretty run of the mill and none are the type of thing where if she buys invites from the same site I did she’d buy the same ones- I told a few friends getting married soon that we got our invites on Vistaprint with a Groupon for next to nothing, and that we just uploaded our own pic- so the likelihood of anyone getting the exact same invites is slim to none. Same with the fact that we’re using an upscale grocery store rather than a florist for flowers, or that we’re using fake submerged flowers in our centerpieces. None of those are earth-shattering ideas, so I don’t mind talking about them.
Post # 14
One of my friends who lives in DC is currently planning a June 2013 wedding in Rhode Island, which is just a few months before my Sept 2013 wedding – in Rhode Island. We are both originally from there, and we are TOTALLY sharing planning info.
It’s a blessing, planning from afar is hard! She gave me local (DC) bridal shop ideas (though I ended up going to different places), we compared notes from caterers, I’m about to send her a spreadsheet of hair & makeup vendors I’ve put together, etc.
Our colors are totally different, venues are different, only real guest list overlap is potentially each other – it’s really been awesome. There are limited great vendors in the same metro area, so why not share info?