(Closed) Do you go back and forth about loosing weight? I do…

posted 8 years ago in Full Figured
  • poll: How do you feel about wedding weight?

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  • Post # 3
    7605 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I waver back and forth like you, but get increasingly panicky as my wedding date approaches.

    Post # 4
    3451 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I go back and forth.  I am hesitant to try any more fad diets because throughout my adult life I’ve tried them all and I’m pretty sure that’s part of the reason I am still fat.  Having said that, eating healthier and exercising doesn’t seem to change my size all that much.  I have PCOS.  Which has gotten worse in the last few years.  I feel like it’s a constant uphill battle, even to lose just 20lbs.  So rather than stress out about it, I continue to eat mostly healthy and exercise, that way I will still feel good and confident on my wedding day…even if my size hasn’t changed.

    Post # 5
    4322 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    You can still do a lot in the time you have left if you stick with it. I lost 30 lbs between March — July, and I know I didn’t give it the 100% effort I could have, yet I still saw results. The most important thing is for you to not take on a workout regiment that is going to discourage you. Do what you can, when you can in the beginning, and once you’ve gotten into the habit of being dedicated, and your body is expecting SOMETHING, step it up. 


    Post # 6
    7977 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    I lost about 35lb living and working in a remote part of the world. Came home for 3 weeks… gained 15lb! How is that even possible? I didn’t even eat three meals a day, and I can count the number of snacks I ate on one hand. $%^&*&%^$!!!

    I hate not being able to lose weight.

    Post # 7
    2083 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 1993

    At the moment, I’m like a possessed woman on a mission. I’m working out every day, have a personal trainer and am eating no more than 1200 kcal and drinking no booze. If I don’t reach my goal I’ll regret it forever. I bought my dress two sizes too small in an attempt to motivate me, so it has to fit. I have to lose it. In the last month I’ve lost about 9lbs, and I think 34 left to go. 

    Argh. I’m constantly panicking! I feel guilty if I’m not exercising. This is my fault By The Way. I know that. I went on a mad binge over Xmas and now need to get it off. I was doing so well last year too! 


    Post # 8
    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @futureJNS:  I completely understand your struggle!!! I myself am a Plus Size bride and am really trying to lose a bit of weight before the Big Day in October. Unfortunately, like you, I am always enticed by all the yummy things in the world.

    All you can do is stop beating yourself up because it just makes you feel like crap and eat the same way. I’m doing simple things like taking a walk every day.

    Start with 10 minutes. Go outside of your house, turn left, walk 5 minutes, turn around, walk back. 10 minutes of walking DONE! Slowly increase the time, add music, whatever makes you happy and enjoy this time. 

    Eat a salad before every meal. You might find yourself less able to finish all the things on your plate once you’re full of yummy veggies.

    Add more vegetables to EVERYTHING. Find a way to sneak vegetables into your every meal. Blend some spinach or kale into a fruit smoothie for breakfast, grate some carrots or zucchini into your rice/bread while cooking it, make sure your sandwiches have dark green lettuce on them (like romaine). Cut down the amount of oil you use for cooking (regardless of what type)–experiment with water sauteeing. After a short time you’ll be surprised how easy it is for you to magically eat healthier and the weight should just fall off!!!

    But most importantly, just DON’T STOP. When you fall off the horse, just get back on. Easy peasy.

    Post # 9
    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Here’s my take on this.  You should feel happy with yourself and your decisions at your wedding.  Like yourself for who you are and what your experiences have made you.

    On the other hand, there is no reason that an upcoming wedding can’t prompt you to make lasting changes in eating habits and exercise routines.  I still have 8 months to go, but have already been working out and eating better since the beginning of the year.  I figure if I do it for long enough with wedding motivation, then it just might stick after the wedding as a perminent healthy change.

    Post # 10
    27 posts
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I am so the ok I know I need to lose weight, but end up everyday sticking bad food in my mouth then I think well the dress fits so why bother stressing out.  I’ve only made it to the gym like once a week so that’s not doing much.  When I got engaged last January I thought I could lose like 80 lbs, but I’m only down 5 with a wedding in 7 weeks.  I’m mad at myself, but it’s been my choice all along.  Good luck to all of you!!

    Post # 11
    59 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    This has constantly been a debate in my head. I need to start excersing anyway- this is a lifestyle change I’ve needed to make and this is the best motivation. My fiance wouldn’t care either way; he has loved me at my current weight but he wants to me to be happy with my weight and achieve the goal I set for myself. At the same time, he’s moving the wedding date closer so less time to lose, LOL.

    Post # 12
    1078 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

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    @shamieya:  same for me. Basicly I started wacthing what I ate when I got engaged. Ended up losing a couple of pounds and felt good about it. Ended up ordering my wedding dress a size smaller then what I tried on. Now I excersie almost everyday of the week, Im actually starting to like it lol. 

    Post # 13
    48 posts
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I bought a cross trainer, guess that says it all… no, seriously, when OH and I met I had just lost about 4 stone, not through exercise or watching what I eat but just by leading a happy, busy life. First I piled on a couple of ‘nesting’ pounds and that was ok, but then my job came to an end and we moved in with his mom for almost a year and I didn’t really have much to do. And all the pounds piled back on, plus some extra. Now I have a job that has such long hours I don’t really get the chance to go out much and be active and tbh I hate it.

    So, yes, my wedding is my excuse to go back to being fitter and happier with myself. I was ok when I was down to a size 18 (am now at 24) but ideally would like to be closer to a 16. I look ok and OH certainly doesn’t mind but I’d just like to be more active and cope with stree w/o resorting to food. I love cooking and baking and tbh I’d feel more comfortable with that if I knew I was more in control of my eating habits.

    Post # 14
    5983 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    i go back and forth all the freaking time! One week I am all “I am eating organic, non processed foods only. I will be at my goal weight in no time. hitting the gym and running outside”. the next week I am sitting in front of the TV with a huge EMPTY bag of cadburry mini eggs and realize that I have not been to the gym all week.

    Its a ridiculous cycle. My weight fluctuates like crazy! It SUCK SO FREAKING BAD. I cannot stick to being or healthy or a fatty. Maybe I am weight bipolar..

    Post # 15
    220 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2005

    I just said “F” it!  I was going to try and loose weight but I kept paniking.  “What if I loose the weight now, buy a dress that fits, and then gain it all back and my dress doesn’t fit 10 weeks later after ordering it?” (10 week cut/sew/delivery time on my dress)

    I just figure that my HB loves me no matter what my size and I will be just as beautiful in my pink dress in a size 22 instead of a size 18.  I did buy a firm support girdle though, to help w some smoothing. LOL

    Post # 16
    1562 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I am a size 24 wedding dress, size 20 street size, and I’m at my heaviest ever.  Right now, I’m 3 months out from the wedding, and I realize that the magical weight loss before the wedding isn’t going to happen.  I’m focusing on toning up instead, and will hopefully start to lose when I go back for my MBA.

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