(Closed) Do you go barefoot in other people's homes?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: What would you wear on your feet?
    Nothing, I'd go barefoot : (97 votes)
    50 %
    Wear my heels, they're a part of my outfit : (50 votes)
    26 %
    Change into flip flops : (13 votes)
    7 %
    I'll explain other : (33 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 33
    5219 posts
    Bee Keeper

    This isn’t really common where I’m from.  If you’re opening up your home and hosting a group of people,  then you should be open to the fact that those people may not want to get all guessied up to walk around with bare feet.  Also,  even clean carpet is utterly disgusting and dirty–maybe I don’t want to expose my feet to that! 

    Post # 34
    3339 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    I only take off my shoes if they request it.

    Post # 35
    984 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I would far rather people walk barefoot on my floors than wear their dirty shoes inside, so I extend the same courtesy.

    Post # 36
    226 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I always ask when I enter someone else’s home. If they don’t mind me keeping my shoes on, I usually do unless it’s someone I know very well. If they ask me to take my shoes off I do; their house, their rules. Personally, I don’t see a big issue wearing shoes in the house, assuming they’re not dripping in mud and no one’s putting them on the furniture. 

    Can you just ask your host what her policy is, then plan accordingly? 

    Post # 37
    2610 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    I always take off my shoes in my own home because I’m more comfortable. I wear socks however because being barefoot makes me uncomfortable. Here I feel like it’s generally assumed in the winter months you take your shoes off because of wet snowy/salty covered shoes.

    In the summer since I hate being barefoot… I don’t like to take off my sandals unless I know the person doesn’t allow shoes in their house. Then I try to remember to either bring socks or some sort of slippers with me. For example at a summer party my Future Sister-In-Law hosted she put a sign on her door saying shoes were not allowed inside the house because of their baby. It was a little awkward to leave my shoes outside but I knew ahead of time she didn’t allow shoes in the house.

    I feel like if someone is hosting a cocktail party where people are going to be dressed up I would assume they’d keep their shoes on. Most dress shoes are kept pretty nice and not caked in mud or dirt. I don’t have fancy floors or carpets though that I am afraid of people ruining with shoes though either.  I guess to be safe I would get some fast flats or slippers to wear. In most cases like this I’ve either seen or heard of the hostess having a basket of slippers/socks near the door for people to use if they wish so that they’re not forced to be barefoot.


    Post # 38
    4438 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @MissMay3003:  +1, I never knew this was a problem until someone made an odd comment about me going barefoot at a party when I was 22!

    Post # 39
    906 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    For a cocktail party I assume I get to keep my shoes on. In a less formal atmosphere those bad boys come OFF. I was raised that you take your shoes off at the front door so you don’t track dirt all over the house. I think PPs’ suggestion of flats/slippers is a good one if you’re still concerned. 

    FWIW, FI’s family does NOT remove their shoes and wear slippers at home, even during the summer. It varies so much region to region/culture to culture. [FI’s family is from South America, I’m from the US Midwest.]

    Post # 40
    604 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I’d just wear a different oufit and shoes (ie, more casual) and take them off before going in.  I think it’s a little odd to have a party and all the guests take their shoes off but she’s being so nice and hosting your shower I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it.

    Have any of you ever seen that episode of Sex and the City where Carrie goes to a party and has to take off her shoes?  They get stolen and it’s a big ordeal…b/c you know Carrie doesn’t wear cheap shoes!!  One of my favorite episodes.  And the reason I think you should rethink your shoe choice, OP.

    Post # 42
    9681 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @QuirkySocialite:  Feet *shudder* I just…no. I can’t even speak about it. 

    But I also don’t allow shoes in my house. Socks or slippers please 😀

    Post # 44
    1849 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’d be shocked if someone sauntered into my house in a pair of stilettos and proceded to prance around on my wood floors and cream color carpets. I would be especially horrified if it was because they were concerned that my cleaning practices are not up to the standards of their feet. If someone thinks so poorly of me (or knows me so little) as to assume that I’m not clean enough to risk removing footwear, they wouldn’t be invited into my house anyway.

    Thankfully all of my friends remove their shoes when they enter my house, even when they were invited over for cocktails in the evening. I’ll be blunt: I don’t give a crap about your cute cocktail outfit, you don’t get to stain and dent my floors. I honestly can’t believe anyone would assume otherwise. 

    ETA: on my way to someone else’s home for a gathering, I always plan to wear an outfit that I would be comfortable in with and without shoes on. I assume I won’t have shoes on, and then I can adapt if everyone is wearing shoes when I arrive (though I don’t think this has ever happened to me). 

    Post # 45
    1460 posts
    Bumble bee

    @MrsPanda99:  ahhh, gotcha I never really thought of socks or slippers. I hate feet more than the idea of outside shoes so I’d rather shoes (unless they’re muddy or they’ve stepped in dog pooh) than their bare feet *gag* haha

    Post # 46
    688 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Where I’m from, you take your shoes off before entering someones home. Unless they specifically say “Leave them on!” you take them off. It would be considered rude here to go through someones house with your shoes on, tracking in mud and dirt. But I really think the “no shoes inside” is a Canadian thing.

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