(Closed) Do you go on "friend dates" with guys other than your SO?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

No.  I don’t hang out with guys anymore alone.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I do not hang out with guy friends alone either.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Overjoyed:  Yes, as I have more guy friends than girl friends. DH doesn’t mind. He trusts me as I do him.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yes, one of my best friends is a guy. My husband was a bit uncomfortable about it at first but I explained to him that there is no attraction there, at all. He might as well be my brother. He gets it and doesn’t have a problem with it. We trust each other.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I used to. He’s my best friend for a couple years now but I don’t anymore. He has a fiance and I am married. Nothing has ever happened between us nor has the conversation even turned to that. I just think out of respect  for our SOs we don’t hang out alone.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I do. I’ve had guy friends forever, neither I nor my fiance see any reason to change that. He has girl friends too. We’re not the jealous sorts, and we trust each other completely. Him tell me to not hang out one on one with my close guy friends anymore would have been a complete deal breaker. So my guy friends and I get coffee, grab sushi, hang out at each other’s houses, wahtever. No big deal. And in my opinion, in a healthy stable relationship, it shouldn’t be a big deal.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Overjoyed:  No, I don’t think it’s appropriate at my age. We aren’t hanging out in tree houses anymore 😛 Anything I wouldn’t do in front of my FI, I wouldn’t do at all. He would never tell me I “couldn’t” do something because he’s not like that. But I am quite sure he wouldn’t be pleased about the idea, just like I wouldn’t be pleased about him doing it. So we just don’t and luckily it has never come up.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

No I don’t, FI doesn’t either. We trust each other implicitly, we just don’t go on “friend dates”

ETA: I do have a couple of guy friends, who I have never had a speck of non platonic feeling for. I believe men and women can be friends without it leading to non-platonic feelings, but I believe you can be friends with someone without hanging out alone.

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have a guy friend who I worked with for years, and have kept in touch with. We go for dinner, or coffee probably once every six weeks or so. DH and he get along just fine, and his current girlfriend and I get along too.

It works in my relationship, and I think if you and your SO are on the same page about it, there’s nothing wrong with it.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

Yup. I have several male friends that I occasionally have a lunch meet up with or a quick coffee run if I am driving through my hometown with.  DH has several female friends he talks to, hangs out with and sees. Both of us are OK with it. I know it doesn’t work for everyone, but I definitely believe that men and women can be friends with the opposite sex and not want to hump them in the middle of Starbucks.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

Oh yes. I have a lot of male friends, both from before and after I met my SO. Why would I give up my friendships because I’m in a romantic relationship? He knows I’m not interested in any of them, and I also trust his judgement. And hey, if someone did try and make a move on me I’m a big girl and know how to handle such things.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

@Mrs_Amanda:  Idk, humping people in the middle of Starbucks sounds like a good time to me. 😛

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I was going to say no, but I do still have one guy friend I’ll hang out with one on one.  He’s a mutual friend (we all met in university, have known eachother for 10 years, he MC’d our wedding). He works right close to me so sometimes we’ll meet up for lunch.  I probably wouldn’t cultivate any new one on one male friendships though. 

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

My husband and I have mutual friends so there is never a reason for us to go out with them separately (although if there was we’d have no problem with it).  I think it just comes down to what works in each relationship.

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