Post # 1
A point of contention in our relationship is I never am ready to go to bed at the same time he is. He is a morning person and I am a night person. He is getting butthurt that I don’t want to go to sleep with him. I don’t get tired enough to go to bed until midnight or so and I like to spend that time watching trashy tv on netflix that I know he would make fun of (although he is strangly addicted to Honey Boo-Boo now. Don’t ask) or randomly surfing the net.
We won’t ever have a tv in our room so that’s not an option and I am just not ready to go to bed at 9:30-10:00 at night dammit!
If you are on the same work schedules do you go to bed at the same time? If not what do you do so the other person doesn’t feel abandoned?
Post # 3
My SO needs less sleep than I do (I’m so jealous!), so I usually go to bed before him & get up after him
Post # 4
I have a consistent work sched, but his fluctuates. We try to go to bed at the same time as much as we can. =)
Post # 5
This has been a problem in the past, though I’m the one who wants to go to bed and he wasn’t tired. It happened more when our work schedules didn’t match and now that they’re closer it’s happening less and less.
If I’m feeling especially needy that night I’ll sleep on the couch next to him til he is ready to go upstairs. Otherwise I’ve just tried to get over it. For his part he will sometimes come up to bed and watch TV while I sleep. We try to compromise when we can.
Post # 6
Would it bother him if you brought a laptop or tablet to bed and watched netflix on that while he sleeps? You can use earplugs…
Post # 7
Ugh this is something I’m struggling with now. I try to go to bed at 10pm, but DH comes in around 11:30-midnight and wakes me up. It’s so hard to fall asleep by myself too! And then if I know he’s brushing his teeth, I’ll try to wait for him, but he takes his sweet time.
I feel tired every day of my life.
Post # 8
I used to be a night owl, but Mr. 99 is an early to rise kinda guy, we split the difference and go to bed between 9:30 and 10:00, it took some getting used to, but to me it’s nice to snuggle into bed together at the end of the day.
Post # 9
I’m usually in bed before he gets home from work. It would be nice to go to bed at the same time, but there’s no way I’m staying up until 2-3am when I have to be up at 6am.
Post # 10
We do on weeknights since we both get up for work at the same time. On weekends though I usually fall asleep on the couch around 11pm and he stays up until 1-2am beside me playing video games, watching tv, etc. Our couch is amazing and completely saps my energy!
Post # 11
We go to bed together most of the time. But normally because it just works out that way. If one of us is out partying late or working late (our industry sometimes calls for late nights or overnight shifts) then we wont always wait up for the other. But more often than not if one of us goes to bed before the other its just because one of us is plain tired.
Post # 12
We usually do around the same time. If anything, he might be 30 min later than me some nights. I usually go to bed around 11 and get up right before/around 7.
That’s if we’re just at home together during the week. There are some exceptions depending on what we’re doing.
Post # 13
Oh forgot to say that if one of us has to go to sleep early one night to catch a morning flight or one person is taking a flex day and wants to stay up late, we will sleep apart. We also sleep apart when FI has a cold because then he snores like a jet engine.
Post # 14
We ALWAYS go to bed together…we walk upstairs at the same time & go to sleep…we don’t always fall asleep together, but we always go to bedtogether…I read somewhere once that it was important to go to bed together in a relationship and I never had to tell him that, healwaysjust wanted to walk upstairs together… 🙂
Post # 15
Sometimes we read for a while, or he plays games on his phone while I read, but yes, we always go to bed together. There were a couple periods in our relationship where we got out of sync, and it created a noticeable feeling of distance in our relationship. Not that either of us was upset at the other, but there’s a certain kind of closeness in just snuggling up together and falling asleep that seems to be important in our relationship.
Post # 16
We NEVER go to bed at the same time. He likes to be asleep by 10:30-11. I like to lay down at 2:30-3. He’s a morning person and I’m a night person but that’s okay. I just lay next to him and watch tv or ggrab my laptop. Some nights I can’t fall asleep until he’s waking up for work at 5 or 6 lol.