Post # 1
The question is pretty straight forward. I feel this anxiety inside if I dont go to bed the same time my husband goes to bed. I love lying next to him even if Im just reading in bed while he sleeps. Does anyone else feel this intense anxiety knowing their SO is in bed ready to sleep and have the urge to join them even if it means dropping what you’re doing?
Post # 3
No we like a little alone time *and* he has to go to bed an hour before me.
Post # 4
Yes. We ALWAYS go to bed at the same time. In the past 3 years together, we only went to bed at seperate times twice. Once was because it was the summer Olympics and I wanted to stay up and see the finals of gymnastics and he had to get up super early. The second time, I went early because I was sick. If I am not ready, I read while he sleeps. It just feels wrong if we do not go together. I cherish the quiet time with him (we have 3 children between us from previous marriages) and the bonding time I get laying with him as he holds me.
Post # 5
I am adament about us going to bed at the same time. I am like you, and think that time together is just so crucial even if it’s just being next to each other for a while. He wakes up about an hour before I do so he usually falls asleep 1st, but we still pretty much always go to the bedroom at or close to the same time. Unless I am working on something for work (I am a teacher) and have to finish up before I head to bed. But that’s rare.
Post # 6
We dont live together so If we’re together yes but apart no.
Post # 7
We’re the opposite… I want to fall asleep at 9pm and he’d be up until 2am every night if it were up to him!
So we generally go to bed between 10 and 11… And if I’m tired before then, I just fall asleep on the couch. He knows to wake me up before he goes to bed!
I just can’t sleep without him there!
Post # 8
No, we usually go to bed at way different times, but he is a night person and I’m a morning ISH person. I love getting up around 7 or8 and having the house to myself
Post # 9
I go to bed around 9 or 10 and he goes around 2 or 3 in the morning. I work really early and he works in the afternoon so sometimes I’m getting up for work when he goes to bed! This has been tough on us, but our solution is that he tucks me in every night, no matter how hard it is for him to get off the couch. To be honest, that little thing is something that has really saved our relationship over the years. It adds a little closeness before I fall asleep that gets lost when we can’t fall asleep together. Maybe you could do the same with your guy!
Post # 10
I’m usually sound asleep by 9:30, and he comes to bed anywhere between 11-2am. I do have to get up super early for work and he doesn’t.
Back in the day I tried so hard to stay awake with him/go to bed too early just because he did. Now I’m all “peace out, keep the tv turned low so you don’t wake me up!”
Post # 11
About 50% of the time but that’s because I’m not working right now. I’m starting a new job in a week and I anticipate we will be going to bed together almost every night once I have to get up early again. I’m a night owl tho & my SO has to wake up at 5:15 so she’s in bed by 9:30 & sometimes I’m up till 1 or 2. This will change soon
Post # 12
It depends. Sometimes he doesn’t get home until 11, and during the week I have to be up early, so I’m usually already laying down or asleep when he gets home. On the weekends though we always go to bed together.
Post # 13
I almost always go to bed first…could be any time between 10-12, depending on if we’re watching a movie or how tired I am. I also usually sit up and read for an hour or play on my tablet in bed, while he watches TV in the living room…he’ll stay up til 2 if he’s not paying attention! I RELISH my alone time in bed, though…stretching out, reading or watching Netflix unitl I fall asleep…I prefer to be asleep before he starts snoring! If he does come to bed with me, I know he’s just trying to get some!
Post # 14
It depends! I am definitely a night owl. During the week, I go to bed regularly around 10-11 ish. DH goes to bed anywhere from 8-11. He usually plays on his phone for who knows how long before he actually goes to sleep. On the weekends, though, it’s different. We both stay up later, but I almost always go to bed first. Sometimes he stays up very late playing video games (kid at heart!)
I am relatively consistent no matter what day of the week, and Darling Husband could go to bed anywhere from 8pm-3am! It boggles my mind!
*I would say probablly 1/2 the time we go to bed together! But I have to admit, I much prefer either me first or together!
Post # 15
usually for most part yes. he works all days and i do rotating shifts that vary during week , when home i do got to bed with my fiance . its good snuggling time
Post # 16
@BrandNewBride: Haha yes! My Fiance and I are the exact same way. He would stay up until dawn if he had his way, but I always convince him to come to bed with me around 10-11pm.