Post # 1
I’m curious to see the statistics on this. I always go to bed before my husband because I’m an early bird and can’t stay up, while he likes to stay up and hates going to bed early. I hate this arrangement but I struggle to stay up and it’s not fair on me to make him sleep early.
Sometimes I do say look, we need to go to bed together tonight.
What about you ladies?
Post # 2
I’m actually really adamant about this for some reason. We almost always go to bed at the same time. I can only recall a couple of times when we’ve gone to bed at different times, I really don’t like to do it.
Post # 3
SithLady: me too, I hate it.
Post # 4
My fiance is away for all but 6 days of the month so I pretty much sleep by myself most of the time but when he is home he is a night hawk. I go to work early so I go to bed most days by 10.
Not sleeping together isn’t a big deal for us
Post # 5
Not usually! I am a night owl and Darling Husband is more of a morning person. We usually get in bed at the same time and he falls asleep while I read or meditate for an hour or two. Then he usually gets up about 2-3 hours before me (because I need more sleep, haha). Then he brings me coffee in the morning! It works great for us! I think it’s nice to have a little alone time.
Post # 6
We mostly go to bed at different times. Our work schedules mean that one of us (me usually) has to work significantly earlier in the day than the other and it doesn’t make sense for me to force him to come to bed with me when he’s only just gotten home from work. On weekends we go to bed at the same time (he works Saturdays but I just stay up late with him since I don’t)
We both struggle to get quality sleep so it makes the most sense for us to sleep when out bodies tell us to rather than when the other persons body does. We shower together so we still get that casual chatting that people who go to bed together get.
Post # 7
When Darling Husband is home at night (if he’s not working) then yes- always! It’s very important to us that we have that couple snuggle time.
Post # 8
Most of the time we do. I usually suck at life if I get less than 8 hours sleep, so I’m pretty consistently ready for bed by 10:30. Sometimes he stays up later to watch Jimmy Fallon, lol. I prefer when we go to sleep at the same time, but it’s not a big deal. As long as I get a big hug and kiss before I go to sleep it’s good lol.
Post # 9
I voted no, because we didn’t last night, but it depends. Sometimes we get into patterns of it happening one way or the other, and neither of us like going to bed at different times for too many nights in a week. But that’s how it is sometimes. When it’s different, it’s almost always me who goes to sleep first. Once in a while he’ll come to bed with me for a few minutes and then go downstairs or something.
Post # 10
MrsMY: We always go to bed at different times. I need to go to bed early because I can’t sleep late, and don’t function on at least 7 hours of sleep, so I’m in bed by 9 or 10 and he goes to bed anywhere between 1 and 3am. He usually comes in for 15 minutes to snuggle with me, because that’s important to us. I also sleep better when he doesn’t go to bed with me.
Post # 11
My fiancé works away around 3 weeks per month so we rarely get to sleep together, and when he’s home, often he’s coming off working nights so his schedule is messed up. I’d say we go to bed together 1/3 of the nights he’s home. It’s fine with me, I like getting as much sleep as possible and I’m so used to sleeping alone that I sleep better that way!
Post # 12
MrsMY: My husband and I go to bed at different times. It doesn’t bother me though because he snores and I have no problem with him getting to bed after me. He also has ADHD and is a night owl! I’m 6 months pregnant so staying up past 9 PM is damn near impossible. It’s never troubled either of us that we have different sleep schedules. Different strokes for different folks!
Post # 13
If we both have to go to work the next day, we go to bed at the same time. If it’s a day of for either of us, we tend to stay up maybe an hour or two later.
Post # 14
We made a “rule” that we always go to bed together. If I’m not tired I can watch tv or read in bed because luckily Darling Husband isn’t bothered by the lights or noise. He’d sleep through bombs going off. But yeah, every night without fail we go to bed together.
Post # 15
MrsMY: Almost always, when he is not working 3rd shift or I am out of town for business.