(Closed) Do you go to bed together/at the same time?

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Do you go to bed together?
    Yes. : (226 votes)
    64 %
    No. : (126 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 31
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    No we rarely do. It kinda sucks. He works long (13 hr) night shifts 3 days a week, and I have a 9-5 job except much of the spring and summer when I’m out of town all week for work, so we don’t have that much time together in bed. Booooo!

    Post # 32
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    Helper bee

    nope we dont usually. i need more sleep and can fall asleep faster without him in the bed. no big deal.

    Post # 33
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    We usually always go to bed at the same time

    Post # 34
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    6430 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    MrsMY:  I would like to but no, we dont. Its just not practical when we are tired at different times. A lot of the time one person sleeps while the other stays up and reads but sits in the bed with a book light lol. Does that count?

    Post # 35
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    Bumble bee

    I would like to, but it’s difficult. I work nights and Darling Husband works normal daytime hours. Even when I’m off, it’s hard for me to get to bed at a normal hour. It works for us, though, no hard feelings.

    Post # 36
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    Darling Husband is a morning person and I am a night owl. We’ve tried to change things for years, but that’s just the way it is. He goes to sleep long before I even get in bed, and is up before I could even approach consciousness. But that’s okay; we are who we are, and neither of us has been able to change.

    Post # 37
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    Bee Keeper

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    MrsMY:  We work opposite shifts so that our daughter can stay out of daycare so it’s usually I’m asleep before he comes home but some days I stay up to go to sleep with him. On days he’s off we go to bed together. 

    Post # 38
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    MrsMY:  we hardly ever go to bed at the same time.

    My husband works 2nd shift, 2:15 – 11:15pm, and I work an 8-5, so we don’t even share a bed during the week lol

    Monday – Friday, I go to bed at 11pm. He gets home around midnight and doesn’t go to bed until 4 or 5am. Meanwhile, I get UP at 6:30.

    On weekends, we try to go to bed together but a lot of times I end up falling asleep on the couch lol.

    It’s just hard for me to get out of the “early to bed, early to rise” routine, and I’m sure it’s even harder for my hubs to go to bed around midnight or even 1am when he’s used to going to bed when the sun comes up.

     

    Post # 39
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We’re about 50/50 I guess. I usually get tired first and sometimes he’ll come with me and stay up on his tablet or sometimes he’ll stay in the living room playing a video game. Either way is fine with me, I don’t mind going to bed without him because then me and the dogs get to snuggle for a bit  He doesn’t let them in the bed with him so they get kicked out when he comes to bed. 

    Post # 40
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I’ve never not gone to bed at the same time as him… I would feel so weird doing that. We have a routine. He showers, then I shower, and while I’m showering he makes the bed and gets us water and checks the locks, takes out the dog and plugs in our phones. Lol come to think of it, I love him a lot for that. Then we crawl into bed at the same time and either cuddle or… 

    Post # 41
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    Bumble bee

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    MrsMY:  5 nights a week, we go to bed at the same time 

    Post # 42
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    We usually go to bed at the same time. Problem is, I’m a light sleeper, so if I go to bed earlier, I ALWAYS wake up when he comes into the bedroom. And not going to lie, I’m a cranky bitch when I’m tired and get woken up especially when I have to get up early the next morning. LOL Poor guy. So for the most part, we go to bed at the same time. 

    Post # 43
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We used to and it was really nice, but now I work rotating shifts at the local hospital and since I’m new that means a lot of night shifts…

    Post # 44
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Our schedules weren’t the same for a while so he went to bed before me (he had to wake up at 4 AM). Now that he doesn’t have to wake up so early we go to bed at the same time every night and before that 4 AM schedule we went to bed at the same time. But whatever works for each couple is whatever works! I know many people who don’t just because one is an early bird and the other is a night owl and they’re fine with that and happy as claims. 

    Post # 45
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

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    MrsMY:  We almost never go to bed at the same time. Before I started working full time again, I would try to stay up with him, but I generally go to bed about 10:30, and he usually goes to bed between midnight and 2 a.m., sometimes later. I definitely do not like this arrangement, but it is what it is. 

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