(Closed) Do you have a close friend that is an idiot?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

If she’s that bad, do you want her doing the reading?  maybe she could hand out programs to people when they come in. She sounds very irresponsible, will she show if she’s a reader? 

Post # 4
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10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think we all know someone, friend or not, that does things that we don’t necessarily agree with. Does that make them an “idiot”? I dont think so…

I have a friend who is in a pretty bad situation (i.e. 2 kids, no money, hours cut at work, the list goes on…). She’s made a number of choices that I don’t agree with but I would NEVER call her an idiot because she’s one of my best friends and I love her. This friend is a bridesmaid in my wedding even though I know it will probably be difficult for her to afford her dress. I’m fully prepared to cover the costs for her if need be because having her stand up there with me is far more important than the cost of a $150 bridesmaids dress. 

Post # 6
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987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

You sound frustrated by her.  You need to let go and let her do her own thing. 

If you genuinely want her to do a reading and trust that she will be reliable, then allow her to do it.  If not, don’t ask her and choose someone else.  If she has a problem with not being a part of anything, let it be her problem and not yours. 

Post # 7
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541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I know what you mean– I have one that I love to death, but want to ask her what the hell she is thinking on an almost daily basis. I didn’t originally ask her to be a bridesmaid, but when I lost one she offered to fill in. I didn’t say yes or no either way but started to get the whiney “how much is this going to cost me” almost the very next day. If she is repsonsible enough to do a reading or to be in charge of something for the wedding like setting something up, I would explain that you are keeping it small and let her do that.

Post # 8
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971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I have a friend who is a wonderful person and has a lot going on for her but doesn’t have a lot going on upstairs.  We’ll call her “Joan”. 

One day, Joan wondered what it would be like if you were blind and drove a car.  So, on this dirt road leading to the beach near our houses, she tried it and crashed her car into a tree.  She learned why they don’t let blind people drive the hard way.  I’m going to guess the majority of us could figure it out without actually attempting to do it.

Another time, we were at “Joan’s” house for a BBQ.  She decided to make beer can chicken.  However, she didn’t know that you had to open the can of beer before shoving it into the chicken.  One word – KABOOM.

 

 

Post # 10
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Why are you friends with someone who you can’t stop insulting? You don’t sound like you’re a good friend to her, either. If she isn’t someone you want to support and stand up for, why would you have her stand up for you in your wedding?

Post # 11
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10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@crayfish: My thoughts exactly. 

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