Post # 1
Do you have a day of wedding coordinator? If so who is it (family member, friend, wedding planner) and how did you ask them to do it? I’ve been told its really important to have a day of the wedding coordinator to keep things going so that the bride can relax. I just do not know who I would ask or how. Any advice would be great!
Post # 3
@imanw: I am having a destination wedding so I have a wedding planner who will also handle day of coordination. Either way I was definitely going to hire someone for at least the day of because you really should almost feel like a guest at your wedding and just relax and enjoy the day. I didnt want to be stressed at all.
A friend of mine had her aunt coordinate the day. She chose her because she is very organized and she trusted that she would keep the day true to her vision. If you arent hiring someone, the person should be someone you trust, handles pressure well and that isnt afraid to speak up if something isnt right to get things back on track.
Post # 4
My mom asked us to hire a DOC after multiple friends of hers said it was the best money they spent on their children’s weddings. I got recommendations from my florist and from some online research, interviewed a few people, and choose one that we hit it off with and who impressed us. She and her business partner have three years of experience, so they charged less than others who are more well-established in our city, and they were running a promotion, so I feel like we got a good value.
Friends and family are of course, a better deal financially, but it can be difficult to hold them to the same expectations, compared to a professional with whom you have a contract and a working relationship. If you can find room in your budget, I’d suggest hiring someone, and don’t be shy about negotiating. For example, if you don’t need them to run your rehearsal, or if you need them for fewer hours overall, they’ll often charge less.
On the other hand, you may not need a DOC if your wedding is relatively simple without lots of details to coordinate and manage that day, or if you have a venue coordinator who can handle certain tasks for you. Even if you do that, I’d suggest having a trusted friend or relative be the point person on the wedding day for any questions, so that vendors aren’t constantly coming to you and your fiance when issues arise. Good luck!
Post # 5
I had one, and I highly recommend it.
If you are still touring venues, ask them if they provide a DOC as part of their package. Our venue made sure we had a DOC complimentary since we used their site for our ceremony and reception.
Post # 6
Yes, it’s included with my venue since my ceremony and reception are at the same place.
Post # 7
yea…. my mom lol She is really good at this kinda thing plus she is cheap haha Mom knows best
Post # 8
I hired a woman who is just starting a wedding planning business to be my day-of coorindator after seeing a recommendation on the bee. She has been great so far and her rates are way cheaper than others because she is just starting out. If I had my ceremony & reception in the same place, I would not have hired one and would have relied on the venue’s banquet manager. But because we are having a church wedding and providing guest transporation, I wanted someone there. I didn’t want to ask a family member because I want them to enjoy the wedding!
Post # 9
Yes we had one and it was the best money we spent. She made everything run smoothly on the day of so we just had to show up and enjoy. She was a professional wedding planner/coordinator and came with 3 assistants.
Post # 10
We paid a friend of a friend who plans events as part of her job, and who has been in a zillion weddings to be our DOC. Best money we spent– she was with us for about 6 hours that day and made sure everything went smoothly, people were where they needed to be, we always had drinks in our hands and that all our events were on time. I don’t think we could have done it without her!
Post # 11
@imanw: My mom has a friend who plans big weddings, and she said she would help anyone who lived within a mile of her (which conveniently includes us)…So she is just going to give input and then help with everything day of.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Our DOC was worth her weight in gold. Hiring her was one of the best decisions we made. She handled every last detail so that I could relax. And after the week I’d had, I definitely needed to relax.
Post # 13
We had one and it was great. Even Darling Husband noticed that it was really helpful having her around. To find one, you can look for people in the area as well as check out blogs of weddings done at your venue (or nearby venues) as those often have vendor information listed. Your venue or other vendors may have suggestions too.
I prefer an actual wedding coordinator over using a friend/family member, unless the friend/family member is a coordinator by trade. There are a lot of little things that a seasoned professional thinks of and organizes that don’t always cross the minds of “regular” people. In some ways, they’re like a executive assistant or a babysitter for the bride and groom, and I mean this as a compliment. Our coordinator isn’t there to have fun and worry about herself; her priorities would be making sure we’re on time and happy and that the event is running smoothly.
Post # 14
we’re having one. It comes with the price of the venue.
Post # 15
I voted no, but we plan to have MOG do a lot of organizing/directing on the day.
Post # 16
@imanw: We had a DOC. She was included as part of the package with our wedding venue. I really didn’t have strong feelings either way about having one, but I have to say she really helped out a bunch!! I didn’t have to worry about anything on the day of the wedding.