(Closed) Do you have a “designated” driver (and I don’t mean a “designated driver”)?

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Who is the driver in your relationship?

    I do most of the driving

    My spouse/FI/SO does most of the driving.

    We split it up depending on the circumstances.

    Other (please explain).

  • Post # 3
    8351 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    If we take my car, I do the driving, but 99% of the time we take his, and I am happy to let him do the driving. He is a very annoying passenger, so it works best for us when he drives. He thinks my driving is a little radical and is always grabbing for the dash, sucking in his breath, stomping his imaginary brake peddle, etc. His driving is very laid back and it always takes us forever to get anywhere, but at least I don’t have to be stressed about his being stressed when I drive.

    Post # 4
    9024 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I never really think much about this.. it just depends.. sometimes I drive and sometimes he does. Never really stop and think about it that much

    Post # 5
    1535 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    My Fiance almost ALWAYS drives. He thinks he’s going to look like a “pansy” or something if people see me in the driver’s seat with him on the passenger side lol. It’s funny too because we just got rid of his vehicle so the truck we’re driving is actually in my MY NAME. Go figure!

    Post # 6
    7429 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We have 3 cars between the 2 of us, so its always “what car are we taking” and “who’s driving?”.  hubs drives a longer commute for work, so usually during the week I drive wherever we go, and we take turns on long trips

    Post # 7
    290 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    My poor driving skills are no secret in my family so EVERYONE feels better when Fiance drives, even his family teases me about my driving.  I usually only drive if I am alone or if he wants to drink.

    Post # 8
    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    we live in new york city and don’t use a car most of the time which works well for us since neither of us likes to drive. when we do drive we usually split the time behind the wheel. we’d both be happy never driving.

    Post # 9
    5262 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    He drives most of the time. I have a much harder time seeing out of the car for things like merging, etc since I’m ridiculously short. It makes me uncomfortable driving on the expressway. In general, we tend to walk or take public transit when we can.

    Post # 10
    8734 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We live in NYC so we don’t drive often. Most of the time it’s just me in the car so I’m the one driving (since my car can’t drive itself yet).

    When we are both in the car, he usually drives (eventhough it’s my car). He says I’m one of the few people he “trusts” to drive, but he’s an annoying passenger. I’d rather sit and enjoy the scenery than have to drive and worry abou this “passenger seat driving” tendencies.

    Post # 11
    2714 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Hahah I don’t own a car anymore (yay public transit), so Fiance is the only one who drives because it’s his car.

    The other day we were driving somewhere and Fiance turned and asked me, “Do you miss driving at all?”

    I kinda do… Even though I can use the subway to get anywhere I need to, I do miss driving sometimes.

    Post # 12
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It depends who’s car we’re taking. Typically if it’s my car I drive, and if it’s his car he drives.

    Who’s car we’re taking depends on what mood we’re in, if one of is tired, had something to drink, just doesn’t feel like it. Sometimes I offer to drive just because I don’t like his music….

    Post # 13
    2090 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My husband usually drives, but he LOVES driving and I have no opinion either way, so he always wants to drive. If I feel like driving – I’ll pipe up and drive. I don’t like driving his car (it’s weird, it’s a coupe but not made for short people, I feel like I’m sitting *in* the dash board when I drive it!! so annoying!).

    In the winter, 99% of the time we take my SUV (because it’s 4×4), and then I usually drive because I know my truck better than he does, and it makes me nervous driving in snow/ice with someone who doesn’t know the truck like I know it.
    On long trips (unless its snowing) we always take his car, because it gets better gas mileage than mine does.

    Post # 14
    5279 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Too funn! My husband and I actually argue about who is going to drive, lol!! BUT, we only have these discussions when we are going out drinking, other then that neither one of us minds driving 🙂

    Typically we base on it on how often the other person drove & if one of us wants to have more fun that night. Like if we were meeting up with more of his friends I would drive, that way he can drink.

    The worst times are when we both want to get crazy and neither one of us wants to drive. Then we flip a coin or rock, paper, scissors it 🙂

    Post # 15
    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think I selected “I do most of the driving” but that’s not really true.  I do ALL of the driving.  I have been with my fiance for 3 1/2 years and I have NEVER EVER seen him behind the wheel of a car.  We used to live in NYC so it wasn’t an issue but now we’re in the ‘burbs and while I prefer being the primary driver, I’d like a little help once in awhile, especially since I bought an automatic transmission at his request.

    The truth is, he got into an accident that was really scary but fortunately didn’t hurt anyone back when he was in college and has barely needed to drive since.  So I feel bad pressuring him, since we’re in a situation where he can walk to school and I need the car during the day anyway.

    Post # 16
    1554 posts
    Bumble bee

    Around town I will do most of the driving, but on long trips he seems to do most of the driving.

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