Post # 1
I had never heard this term until I started in corporate. When I first started interning in my early 20s, I had an older lady take me under her wing. She did motherly things, like asking if I had lunch, if I was getting enough sleep, etc. She affectionately called herself my “work mom,” which my real mom thought was hilarious (she was happy someone was nagging me when she couldn’t :P).
I noticed a lot of ladies have “work husbands” and they are quite flirty with them. I am not sure if this is common across other industries, but I have seen it at all of the companies I’ve been with. I even had someone ask to be my work husband (FI had a heart attack). Do you think this is harmless fun for the workday, or does it open the door to emotional (or physical) affairs?
Post # 3
sorry never heard of the term before and to be honest i never seen it at my place of work either (corporate)
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
That sounds super wierd if I’m honest XD
Post # 5
I think I heard this term on 30 Rock. I thought it was a joke…
Post # 6
@MrsPanda99: I think the work mom sounds funny and cool, but the work husband could be taking it too far depending on each individual situation.
Definitely not for you if your FI had a heart attack though!
Post # 7
No and I despise when people use the term to be honest. I work in a small office and no one engages in that type of behavior. While casual and laid back, we are a very professional business. We all like to keep work and personal life separate for the most part.
I think I’m pretty old school though when it comes to the work environment.
Post # 8
@sheepandbear: I see it all.the.time! Definitely not a joke in my neck of the woods.
@meij: Maybe it’s just my particular sector – all of my companies are in the same industry.
Post # 9
I have a “work husband” and I find it harmless. We are both married and talk abour our spouses constantly, my DH even sends him homemade beef jerky.
Post # 10
FI and I both have “work spouses”. Mine is a woman and his is a man. Basically we both work with our BFF’s so we jokingly call them our “work spouse”. Neither of us has an issue with this
What you are describing – someone of the opposite sex and flirty – I’ve heard of, but would NOT be ok with at all. Friends is all good. Flirting, no way
Post # 11
No! I don’t even like any of the crazies in my office. My least favorite one being a dead ringer of Peter Griffin. I did have a work spouse at my old job. But in retrospect, that was more of an “office romance,” not really the same thing
Post # 12
My dad has a work husband…who is a male. Haha. I’ve always heard the term as a joke. It seems weird that someone would ask to be yours.
Post # 13
Yes and no. I understood the term work husband/wife to mean someone of the opposite sex who you’re just really good friend with/close to. In that sense, yeah, I joke with DH that I have a work husband. We have lunch once in a blue moon and chat about sports whenever we run in each other in the building.
DH and I joked that he had a work wife a year or so ago. They got along really well, were good friends, etc.
But flirting, and asking someone to be their work husband/wife? Heck no. DH and I have also never, ever called them that to their faces or to co-workers. It’s a joke between DH and I about our work lives.
Post # 14
@MrsPanda99: sounds dangerous. my part-time job is at a gym that is staffed and run predominantly by (and most of the members are part of) members of the gay community. we use the term ‘gym boyfriend’ to denote who it is that works out there that we are crushing on/think is hot at the moment, but it never goes beyond that. sounds like people are asking for trouble.
Post # 15
@MrsWBS: At least you’ve heard the term! Now I’m not feeling as crazy.
@Chrysoberyl: I will never give up my work mom. We still keep in touch 🙂 Work husband would definitely not go over well though 😛 I guess I won’t have anyone bringing me coffee and being sweet to me like the other “married at work” ladies.
Post # 16
I’ve heard it a lot, but never actually experienced it. For someone to ASK to be your work husband is REALLY weird, though. I always thought it really just meant that you worked closely together and were friends, so sometimes there is some nagging or help with your personal life. But I definitely thought this was something that naturally developes not something that is (pardon the pun) proposed!