(Closed) Do you have an arch frenemy/ enemy?

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Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I do!! She is a fremeny because she is one of my Fiance friend’s wife. She purposely invited my Fiance to their wedding but not me. Yeah…but I still have to be civil. I hope they dont show up to our wedding.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Yep, the bf’s ex girlfriend (my ex friend). She’s hopefully out of our lives for good but I can totally imagine her becoming one of those girls who stalks our wedding and cancels our deposits and stuff like that. Hopefully that doesn’t happen.

But honestly, it’s really a sore spot for me as I generally feel like I’m really a well-liked person, so having someone out there hating me really feels terrible! I wish I could tie up this loose end but I don’t think that’s going to happen for us.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@cbee: Whaaaaaaat. Thats crazy! You win, why would she do something like that?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I have a weird situation with a girl who was my close friend, then dated Fiance when we were on a break, then I hated her (obviously), but then Fiance and I got happily together and have been for years, and she’s also in a serious relationship with a guy we’re friends with.  She and I are friends again, and I really do like hanging out with her, but part of me always feels just a tiny bit competitive toward her.  It’s stupid, and I should be over it (because hello, I got the guy and the ring, and we’re both better off than we were), but I still feel it.  Weird.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yes…it goes back to high school (which is totally pathetic I know) but Fiance is still really good friends with her twin brother, so it is still kind of relevant. She was very jealous that my family was a little more well-off than hers (and this all started because I went into her house one day, realized that the same builder built our previous house and it was the exact same model only reversed and I happened to mention that we had kicked out a couple walls) and decided from sophomore year I was crap. I spent two years killing her with kindness. Then our senior year Fiance and I took a “break” and she happened to step in and decided to ask him to our senior prom. Needless to say, that didn’t go over well with me, and now we don’t speak….

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

There is a lady that the FH occasionally works with (thank goodness it’s occasionally).  Everytime I see her I want to punch her in the neck.  When I first started seeing the FH, she would often join the boys for afterwork cocktails.  I usually meet up with them.  One night, while I was in the bathroom, she told him that he should leave me and give her a chance..bla..bla..bla..  When I came out she was leaving and FH had a freaked out look.  He told me what happened and was pissed about it, as was I.  Now, whenever he works at that plant and he goes out with the boys, she invites herself.  He has to be cordial to her, as she is a plant rep, but I still want to punch her in the throat.  I am sure she knows by my coldness that I know what she did.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I used to have an arch enemy. I worked with her and she would make my skin crawl just being around her. Her dad died when she was young in a tragic accident and her mommy felt so bad for her that she did whatever she wanted for her. Girl wanted second car, begged mom for it, and got it. She was paying a large sum of money every year for car insurance for both cars and would spend extra money every couple weeks to “pimp” it out. She tinted her windows, got black rims, funky lights, and a trunk full of speakers. All of her extra money was spent buying very expensive jeans and other forms of clothing. After she put in her two weeks (as she was going away to college in which mommy was paying for, and she would not have to work and was able to live in her own suite) she decided that working was completely overrated and spent her whole last several months walking around in circles doing NOTHING, only texting her friends on her Blackberry. IN FRONT OF CUSTOMERS AT THE WINDOW.

Anyways, enough about that. I’m just saying thank GOD I don’t have to work with her anymore. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I used to. I don’t really think about it too much anymore since it was ages ago.  Basically, Fiance dated this girl for a year off and on, in the TENTH GRADE and part of the next year.  She was one of my good friends (so I guess I broke some sort of friendship law…it sounds bad when i put it that way), but Fiance and I developed feelings for each other months after they broke up.  She FREAKED and I mean, absolutely went nuts and has been trying to ruin/interfere ever since.  Let me mention this was FIVE YEARS AGO and she has had 2 boyfriends since then. It got to the point last year where I said “Bitch Step OFF!” and I NEVER get that way lol.  I am known as the quiet, shy girl…but this chick just can’t let go of the fact that I “stole” her EX boyfriend back in 2006.  Seriously, I left high school in 2007, what in the world?? haha We all ended up at the same college and she “happened” to see Fiance all the time around campus and tried to start stuff (which prompted the “step off” comment).  Just a few months ago, she messaged him on FB and asked why they couldn’t be friends.  She knows we are engaged and she’s had a serious boyfriend for at least 2 years. I just don’t understand the need for drama at this point in our lives.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@cbee: Yeah I sort of get mad at myself every time I feel competitive, because there’s no point at all.  But my mind has been wired to believe I’m being judged against her (ever since the drama with Fiance when we weren’t together), and now it just happens automatically.  We’re actually really good friends though, which is why it kills me to feel this way.  I also don’t want to be a hater.

Post # 15
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656 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I do! My future SIL’s boyfriend accused my fiance of cheating on me because one of his friends saw him at a bar with another girl and assumed he was cheating (I’ve known the girl for 4 years and we’re good friends, he told me everything that was happening, I literally thought nothing of it). 

he and my Future Sister-In-Law spent two days reasoning and explaining how he was cheating on me, and she was absolutely convinced, and she told my Future Mother-In-Law. 

Neither of them have said a word to my face about anything, neither of them thought of talking to either of us like actual adults with concerns, they gossiped – excuse me – “shared their concerns” with her mom. He is the most manipulative jerk I’ve ever met and I can’t imagine he’d show his face at our wedding.

who puts that much time and energy into proving something that doesn’t even effect them?

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@tksjewelry: I would have punched her in the neck!

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