Post # 32
I might wait awhile to bring up the topic since he seems to have such a strong reaction to it. I think it’s a great idea to have input on your ring though! That way you know you will love it and it can be sized before he proposes so you can wear it right away 😛 I completely picked out my ring by myself, then took my bf to the store so he could see it, then he bought it in front of me lol.
Post # 33
all i told him was that i want a heart shaped diamond. i’m not gona give any more hints, but i honestly am scared i won’t like the setting he picks. but i guess if i really didn’t like it i could always have it reset in another style
Post # 34
My SO doesn’t know the first thing about jewelry whatsoever (he fully admits it and owns it) and I’m a big fat control freak (and I fully admit that and own that, haha), so I’ll probably pick out my ring myself. We’ll probably ring shop together and I’ll ask for his input because of course I want him to like it too (despite the fact that he knows nothing about it, he still has opinions on what looks good to his eye and what doesn’t…he comments/compliments on all my other jewelry all the time), and we’ll come to a decision together, but I’ll have final veto power.
Post # 35
I am VERY “passionate” (SO’s word) about diamonds. He knows the cut and style that I like. We have had several conversations about rings and styles and my likes/dislikes. First, I casually showed him rings online that I like, then we saw a few at a few different jewelry stores downtown. Lastly, we would browse websites together, and he’d point out which ones he thought I’d like and explain why. I still can’t believe how much he’s paid attention! I’m very proud of him for mastering my style and taking the time to really figure out what I like.
Post # 36
I picked it out myself. Went to try it on. Tried on a billion others and kept coming back to the first one. We got quotes and pricing so that he knows how much he needs to put away. And when he’s ready then he’ll be ready.
Post # 37
I chose my setting and Fiance chose the diamond, he was really thankful for the guidance.
Post # 38
I left pictures of the ring I always wanted (a simple round cut solitaire) on his desk. I thought he was paying attention and keeping it in mind – but no. He wasn’t ready and the pictures got lost… lol.
What I did was broach the subject lightly when he was talking about his finances one day (I just reminded him he had to keep in mind ring costs). He asked to show me what I liked online so he can get an idea of the style and costs. But as I was looking at all the different styles I realised that I didn’t even know what I wanted anymore. There was a world of rings out there I never knew about! So I told him I’d have to see how different styles of rings looked on my finger to narrow it down. A few days later I was at the mall with a friend and we checked out some rings and fell in love with a round cut diamond with a halo. However – when I showed him pictures of it he didn’t like it and told me he would have to see how it looks on my finger. So we went ring shopping! He didn’t like the round cut halo – but he liked the princess cut halo – and trying it on I fell in love with it too. So we got some quotes and info for him for when he’s ready to buy. That was 4 months ago – I’m still waiting, but it at least it was a step forward for us.
I think it was important for him to be involved in choosing the style rather than me just telling him what I want because it is something that he will be buying with his money – so it’s great that we were able to find something we both liked.
Post # 39
I wanted to repost this here as it is relevant.
Ring shopping came up sort of on it’s own while we were doing some cleaning up around the house and Somehow Diamonds came up and I slipped in…”speaking of Diamonds…” I brought up Moissanite and he said he had been looking at Moissy on the way home from the US at the Duty Free! lol
So after letting him know why I was thinking going Moissy or Asha was a good route, I asked him if I could send him an email with a few pictures and links and he said yes.
I just fired off a carefully composed email with my basic wishes (Metal, stone cut, etc) and sent pictures and links to 1 moissanite that is PERFECT (its the Fleur De Lis along the side which is has significance to his heritage and his Army regiment) and 4 Ashas that are also amazing. So 5 in total so I wouldn’t overwhelm him.
I feel pretty good about this all considering that his V.D’s card was addressed to “My Future Wife” 🙂
Post # 40
No and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I tried hinting or telling my gf’s hoping maybe he’d consult one of my girls but he didn’t I didn’t get exactly what I wanted but I don’t care, I wouldn’t trade it for my dream style ring even if he offered.
Post # 41
I definitely have had/will continue to have input. I think it’s only fair! I definitely trust my SO and I want him to make the final decision, but I feel like I should be in love with the ring I’ll wear for the rest of my life! So yes, I’ve already had and will continue to have some input!
Post # 42
I think I do. He asked that I eventually start sending him ring ideas because he doesn’t even know where to start. That and I have almost no jewelry so it’s not like he can go digging around my drawer and check out my favorite rings. Whether or not he ends up using my ideas… who knows. 🙂
Post # 43
I had input in mine. We chose it together! It’s a style we both love. 🙂
Post # 44
My SO knows that I am super-picky and he gets really stressed before giving me presents. I let him know that I knew what I wanted, and one day he opened his computer and said “Okay, show me these rings”, I bounced over and took him to the webpage that has my dream ring. A week or so after that while we were at the mall he suggested we go to a jewelry store and see what different carat weights looked like on my hand. I’m still playing the waiting game, but I know I’ll love what’s in that box as much as I love the man holding it!
Post # 45
I’ll get to pick out what I want when the time comes. Since he doesn’t know what I like (and at this point I’m not even entirely sure) it’ll just be easiest if I pick something out when the time comes.
As for the e-mail, wait. Wait until things have cooled off. Wait until HE brings the topic up. Or let someone he might turn to when he gets to that point know what you would like. An e-mail now will only seem like pressure.