(Closed) Do you have dress regret AFTER the wedding

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2016

Picture?:) I would love to see a stunning bride!!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have dress regret!

I spent $7,000 on my VW gown and loved it up until about a week before the wedding. Now I’m seeing gowns I really love and wish I had picked something else!

Mainly I wish I didn’t pick a mermaid style and went with something with a natural waist and a big skirt.

I hate thinking about it!!! But there’s nothing we can do now, so try not to dwell too much on it. Frown

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Vera Girl:  Girl, if you have dress regret, we’re all screwed.  You were perfection in that dress.

OP- I haven’t seen your wedding dress but I’m sure you looked radiant.  While its easy to nitpik all the things you could have done, the reality is that you couldn’t have done it all before the wedding- you certainly couldn’t have known you were going to lose 5 lbs so quickly!  Plus, you can use the money you didn’t spend on your dress for a sweet date night or an anniversary celebration with your husband.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree…can we see a picture?  I’m sure you looked great!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

To be quite honest I think dress regrets are kinda a waste of time. I’m sure you look beautiful in whatever you bought. Don’t worry about the things that really don’t matter. What matters is that you married the man of your dreams…everything else is just a plus. 

I think we are brought up in a society where big businesses such as Jewelers, wedding planners, ESPECIALLY the media (say yes to the dress, my fair wedding etc..) are telling us that everything has to be lavish and p-e-r-f-e-c-t on our wedding day. I understand that we want everything to be “perfect” but most of the time things don’t go that way. When my aunt got married 6 years ago, she told me that on the big day who ever the wedding planner was forgot to put the candles on the candle holder. So my aunt remembered seeing a bunch of candle holders without candles on them. And instead of freaking out, she just laughed it off and enjoyed the night with her husband and family.

Think of this…When I was wedding dress shopping, my consultant (who is also the ownder of the boutique) told me how she had a ton of brides from different countries and culture where they are not allowed to pick their own dress; it’s all a part of their culture- the mother and sister of the bride have to go out and buy her a wedding dress. I’m sure those women would love to have the chance to pick their own wedding dress, but when it really boils down to it, it REALLY doesn’t matter.

My mother had no choice either- she was just expected to wear my grandmother’s dress, which by the way, was worn by 2 other sisters before her. My wedding dress I got for a steel because I bought the store sample, and I love it more than anything.

Anyways bottom line is- I’m sure you looked wonderful. Don’t stress over it. the Marriage is the important part, not the wedding.  

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had a little dress regret when i looked at the gorgeous dresses some of you bees chose..BUT a little time ago i decided to put it on again, this time with my hair down (long and dark) and guess what..it blew me away AGAIN!!!!!!!!!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh yes, before and after.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I really do have a lot of dress regret after the wedding.  But it’s not really so much that I don’t like my dress from my wedding, it’s more that I’m sad that I’m not a bride anymore! ๐Ÿ™‚  I’d kill to go in for a few other bridal appointments, just to prance around in dresses! I know, it’s silly, but it’s easier to admit it to a room full of brides. ๐Ÿ˜‰  

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had major dress regret about 2 months before the wedding, but sucked it up because the budget wouldn’t allow a new dress. It’s now been about a week-and-a-half since our wedding day, and although I ended up loving my dress in the long-run, I still wish I had chosen something less poofy.. it would have made using the restroom a lot easier, lol.
In all seriousness, though, I wish I went with a more fit-and-flare gown that showed my curves better. I haven’t seen many pictures from the day, yet (we asked guests not to post on social media until we get our pro pics back), but the ones I have seen (cell phone pics) make me feel like a blob. Oh well.. I felt beautiful on the day, and I’m hoping it comes through in the pro pics!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I did/still do. Not because my dress wasn’t pretty, but I had the opposite problem you did and I gained weight. I had to have it taken out a bit…and then I misplaced my bra the morning of and had to borrow a friends…and it just made the back-fat the much worse. I was also not willing to spend a lot of $$ on my dress, so I didn’t even enteratin the posibility of a lot of gowns that might have been prettier. The one major regret I have from that day is that damn bra and my obscene back fat. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I think I am have dress SHOPPING regret. I had been online window shopping for awhile and had pinned my fav dresses to pull up later, but I have not gone to a physical store to try dresses on. Well, a few weeks ago, the dress I had been drooling over was on sale, so I bought it! (I had already gone to a dressmaker to get my measurements, so I  knew the size to get.)

Now I am worried I have missed a big part of wedding planning: dress shopping. Maybe I will go ahead and try on different ones just for fun one day Laughing

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My only dress regret is that it didn’t get bustled correctly after the ceremony so looked goofy and stuck out funny in the back. I think we all KNOW we SHOULDN’T have dress regret but its hard to convince yourself of that. I keep telling myself no one probably noticed, the photos I can photoshop, it wasn’t a big deal, yada yada, but you can’t help that annoying feeling inside.

Add on top the feelings that the wedding is really over, and we don’t get to wear the dress again, or plan, or dress shop, etc. etc.

What if you get back in your dress (when it fits, either when you gain the 5 lbs back or get it fitted again) and do another photoshoot with your husband and yourself? I would love to do this and hope to, with the bustle done correctly this time. It’d be so much more fun without the stress of the day and you can feel more comfortable without having the straps, etc.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Not married yet. But I fear this. So much.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yup. I wish I had worn a flowy or a lace dress instead. My dress was ok, but on our wedding day no one told me I looked pretty in the dress. So I feel like I chose the wrong dress.

Our wedding day was fabulous though. My memories are all wonderful, we had a kick-ass venue, very little went wrong and there is very little I would change…..other than the dress.

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