Post # 1
I’ve been doing a Say Yes to the Dress marathon on Youtube tonight (never seen it before, but heard a lot about it!) and found this really interesting, especially given the number of bees who seem to be going through dress regret, and after experiencing it myself.
Watch from 15.50 ….
Basically, a bride who had already ordered a gown & cancelled comes back to try other dresses on a year later, but also wants to try on her original dress at the end. Instead of doing it that way, they pull a bait & switch and include her original pick in the collection of “new” dresses she is trying on. Result? She had the same “this is it” reaction as the first time… but doesn’t even realise it’s her original dress until her mum thinks she recognises it. She loves it so much she orders it a second time and lives happily ever after 🙂 (her groom’s reaction is so sweet!)
I think the big thing to remember is there are so many amazing dresses shared on here that it can be so easy to get distracted, confused & to second guess your pick or to start to think “if only I’d tried on ….” … this place can truly be over saturation central!
I wanted something simple & lacy… until some amazing recaps here had me regretting not going with a ballgown! The thing is, you picked that dress for a reason! And photos of you in a dress generally just don’t cut the mustard. I have photos of me in my dress but even now I still get doubts creeping in! Then I go back to try it on and WHAM it hits me why it’s 100% “the one” … because of how it makes me FEEL. And that can be easy to overlook when we’re totally saturated with photos that we can simply LOOK at and imagine ourselves in. How you feel in the dress is as important as how you think it looks in photos! Been through this twice myself so I’m just hanging on to that feeling and trying not to get too envious of all the pretty dresses on here 😉
Oh, and my last piece of advice would be to look at the “before and after” sticky thread on the Dress board… it’s amazing the transformation hair, makeup, professional photography and most importantly that wedding “glow” can have 🙂 When I start to get distracted I always go back to it 🙂
Post # 3
@goingtotherooftopoflove: +1 to the before and after threads. I had major dress regret but stuck with my original and it was the best decision ever. I loved my dress again and it was perfect for me and my venue!
Post # 4
I ordered my dress, got home, and FREAKED that maybe I had picked the wrong dress.
I got to my first fitting, and loved it more than ever! The bridal salon ended up remembering me as “That girl who loved her dress more than any other bride, ever.” (I’m a little enthusiastic.)
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
@goingtotherooftopoflove: Thanks for this! Since joining the Bee my vision of my dream dress (which I’ve already bought) has been changed as I’ve probably been oversaturated here and regret has been nagging at me ‘if only I’d waited…’but I’m sticking with it and I hope it’s the right choice!!
Post # 6
I saw that episode! How could she not notice that really distinctive one shoulder strap with the big flower?
Post # 7
@AlwaysSunny: lol good question!
Post # 8
Thanks for this! I don’t have dress regret per se, but since I had to try on dresses for the first time and make a decision in the same day, I was really overwhelmed and had a hard time feeling confident in my pick. I still kind of feel like there might be a style out there that I would have put on and said THIS IS IT, because I never really got to try anything like what I pictured in my head. But when I tried on my dress, I could feel my face light up – it was just so fun, and totally perfect for me. Just have to take deep breaths and remember that!
Going to go check out the before and after boards now. I didn’t even know that existed!
Post # 9
@goingtotherooftopoflove: OHMYGAWD I CANNOT THANK YOU ENOUGH FOR POSTING THIS! I think I got a whopping 3 hours of sleep last night because I had major dress regret. My dress was pulled from the closet last night so I could at least try it on again – I had to hold it up of course, needs alterations still and I certainly can’t lace up a corset back by myself. I feel a bit better but there’s a lace mermaid on the Bee that had me second guessing myself. I’m telling myself alterations will fix my doubts but I don’t need to, and shouldn’t, start them for several months yet which is part of the worry.
THANKS AGAIN! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!
Post # 10
Honestly, I think the waiting to wear the dress is the whole darn problem!!!! There’s so much time that goes by and so many opportunities to see other gowns and let doubt creep in. Especially because it’s such a big deal purchase 🙂
@Miss.PeanutButter: I love your description. I know what you mean about the face lighting up thing. I tried my dress on for my bridesmaids in November and they said they’d never seen me grin so hard 😛
Post # 11
@goingtotherooftopoflove: I was having dress regret after buying my dress two months earlier. When parents came to visit they insisted on seeing my dress. I reluctantly got it out of storage and tried it on. It was love at first sight all over again! This time I made my dad take a bunch of pics with his really good camera that way anytime I start to have regret I can look at them (instead of the really bad pics taken on my cell phone). Now I can’t wait to put it on again!
For me the easiest way to combat dress regret is to have a bunch of good photos handy to look at. What really killed my excitement over my dress was looking at the not so good photos.
Post # 12
@renwoman: That’s really awesome! You’re lucky that your dress is home, I don’t get mine for ages because it’s being made to measure (in a way I haven’t even seen “my” dress yet because we’re making some changes to the sample). I’m so glad that your dad got some great photos for you. I’m kinda regretting not showing my dad my dress, especially because my parents are paying for it. But at the same time, I kind want it to be a surprise for him on the day too 🙂