- 2 weeks ago
- Wedding: August 2019
More just a question because I’m kind of ticked off about something
A friend and her partner were working in the mines…until she fell pregnant (3x kids now), and he got a back injury (and a payout). So for a few years funds were short.
I do like this girl so whenever we meet (about twice a month) I always cater because I don’t want to put her in the position to pay for anything. Likewise when the group catches up and we order food, it’s always pizza or something economical and we always chip in for her, and keep a few drinks spare in the fridge.
Like we all get it. I earn a decent wage, as do a few other in our group, so it’s no sweat off our backs – I never really thought twice about doing it.
But recently – she’s back working again and earning good mining money (and her partner’s business he started is taking off) – and she would always post on social media about all the things she was buying for herself – like today it was about $600AUD work of Jeffree Star Cosmetics. Otherwise it’s new cars, new accessories, furniture, nights away, dinners etc. I am SO incredibly happy she’s back working and loving it, once again has some disposable income, and earning what she’s worth and is able to spend a bit on herself and her kids. But, she still expects us to pay for everything when we’re together.
I guess it kind of irks me that she has plenty of funds to spend on luxury items for herself, but when we get together she won’t contribute.
The last time we caught up I kind of tested the waters and we ordered pizza. She was super pumped for all of the junk food until I threw it out there “ok $20 all round” and her demeanour instantly changed to “oh no it’s ok I won’t have any”. Like girl you just walked in showing off your new Michael Kors handbag and matching purse…. It’s petty of me I know, but I was raised in a house where you pay your way and never just take for no reason.
I know I can’t get in and tell her where she should spend her money, and that’s not what it’s about. It just irks me that I’m still expected to pay, when she brags all the time about what she’s able to afford now.
Like can you afford a round of drinks? Lol
Anyway, rant over. Any thoughts?