(Closed) Do you have much of a relationship with your FFIL?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
450 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Wel, that’s better than me… My Father-In-Law passed away before I even met him!

Post # 4
4382 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!


I actually have a wonderful relationship with mine. We talk at least once a day, and talk for hours about camera stuff and photography. Also, we even talk about wedding stuff, which makes me giggle. 🙂

Post # 5
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

No. I met my Father-In-Law um,  3 times? He’s on his third wife and walked out on my Mother-In-Law 25 years ago and lives on the East Coast. I’ve seen him at 2 Christmases and at the wedding.

Post # 8
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

FI’s parents are also divorced. I speak to Future Mother-In-Law, Step Future Mother-In-Law all the time about wedding stuff and other things. Future Father-In-Law, not really. We email to say Happy Birthday, Merry Xmas Etc. and say I love you when we visit (during the goodbye), but for the most part Fiance speaks to Future Father-In-Law on a regular basis. He’s a man’s man and kind of extreme and hard to communicate with, so I speak to his wife mostly (Step FMIL).

Post # 9
1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I actually have a better relationshipwith my Future Father-In-Law than Future Mother-In-Law. they are divorced and Future Mother-In-Law has issues with Future Father-In-Law. It can make things really uncomfortable when it comes to things for our daughter. Future Father-In-Law and I email pretty regularly. In fact I was just making plans for us to go visit him this weekend.

Post # 10
1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

My Father-In-Law and Mother-In-Law are divorced.  I have actually seen Father-In-Law more than Mother-In-Law because he lives in the town the hubs grew up in.  My Father-In-Law is very….. laid back.  He and my Mother-In-Law got a divorce because he just didn’t care about anything.  So needless to say we don’t talk.  I don’t have his number in my phone, etc.  The extent of our relationship is that he his the hubs dad.  That’s it.  But it doesn’t really bother me, he’s nice enough and he’s pretty funny when he gets drunk, lol.

Post # 11
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

We’re really close. I spent the last half of high school at their house, pretty much, and he’s just a great person in general. I actually get along much better with Future Father-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law than with my own parents. 

Post # 12
5273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

we are just cordial, things got super weird during the engagement because he called my parents (who he met once) to inform them that the brides family is supposed to pay for the wedding and to ask them why they weren’t paying for their daughters!! So needless to say I was very upset and there is this distance between us bc he tries to be overly nice now and it comes across all weird, awkward, and fake.

Post # 13
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

He’s not much of a talker, and I’m very intimidated by him! He took a very long time to warm up to me, but I think we’re making progress, haha.

Post # 14
2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Meh. Our relationship largely consists of him staying for two weeks in the middle of December, despite our repeated mentions that it is super inconvenient. We talk, he is an interesting guy, but he was a mediocre father who did dumb things (like stealing FI’s identity and his brother’s savings account WHILE HE WAS IN IRAQ).

But I can talk to him fine. Just don’t really like him.

Post # 15
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t have much of a relationship with my Future Father-In-Law… but then again, FI’s relationship with him is pretty strained as well.  FI’s parents are also divorced.  His dad got custody, so Fiance was raised by his dad… but then they had a really nasty falling out when Fiance was in college. 

Fiance and his dad are back to speaking to each other, but things are pretty tense.  Both are always just really polite and careful not to hurt the other’s feelings.  We usually see my Future Father-In-Law for FI’s birthday and around Christmas, but that’s about it.  Actually, I think he only recently learned my name!  …and I’ve been with his son for over 4 years!

Post # 16
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Eh, its fine. Fiance is not very close to his father and makes an effort to avoid seeing him as much as possible (they’re pretty much on the twice/year plan for birthday and Christmas). He’s a nice enough guy and he certainly tries his best to be nice to me… not much to say to him though.

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