(Closed) Do you have opposite sex co-workers numbers?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you have opposite sex co-workers' personal numbers?
    Yes. I keep my discussions work related though. : (57 votes)
    34 %
    Yes. We discuss things other than work as well. : (86 votes)
    52 %
    No, it's inappropriate. : (6 votes)
    4 %
    No, I don't think its inappropriate but I keep all contact through work phones and e-mails. : (12 votes)
    7 %
    Other : (5 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 31
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    3729 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    LittlePumpkin:  Absolutely! I have everyone’s home and cell. But I am the emergency coordinator in case of a major problem at work. I am in charge of letting my coworkers know if it isn’t safe to come into work and letting their families know if there is a problem. I regularly text my male coworker. The conversations are “I left my ID in my computer and am locked out. Can you let me in?” or “the call dropped on the conference line, can you call me again?”. Totally work related (other than major life events, like having a baby).

    Darling Husband texts his female coworkers socially and for work. Most of the texts are about carpooling or happy hour, which are fine. The only time it has been a problem is when he is driving and I am supposed to read the text to him and there is acronyms that I don’t understand. He laughed at my guess of what the text meant (it was a reminder not to come in early, he was locked out of the room he was working in until noon). I didn’t think it meant anything bad, but I was totally confused. 

    Post # 32
    Member
    105 posts
    Blushing bee

    I don’t see why this should be even an issue. I have lots of male coworkers, friends, professional acquaintances etc. – would I need to delete their phones after wedding and not to interact with them anymore? Why? The same with Darling Husband – he doesn’t have many female coworkers or acquaintances with whom he would communicate, but I never question him about his phone conversations, texts or e-mails (actually, I try not to peek at them even if he has left his e-mail open or phone available; after all, those people sent something to him, not me).

    Post # 33
    Member
    2704 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Yep, I have my male coworkers’ numbers.  I do mission operations so it’s definitely a necessity.  Some of my coworkers are now my friends outside of work so we’ll text about social things.  Others it’s purely work-related.

    Post # 34
    Member
    685 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Technically since my husband is my co-worker I can’t really say that I keep all conversation with co-workers business related 😛  We also have a lot of mutual friends at work, so it’s not as weird/inappropriate for us.

    Post # 35
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    1603 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Yes, and we discuss things other than work. For example, a male coworker knows that I’m good with photoshop and asked if I could design an “invite” for the big anniversary evening he has planned for his girlfriend. We’ve also made plans to go out as a group through text.

    Post # 36
    Member
    860 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m in school, but I have a bunch of male classmate’s numbers. Sometimes we talk about class and sometimes our personal lives. Sometimes we get bored and go for beers or catch a movie. My Fiance works and he’s the same way. Honestly, I’ve always been really creeped out by women who won’t be friends with the opposite sex. Are they afraid they’ll jump the person in a fit of penis – proximity induced passion if a male person asks how their weekend was?

    Post # 37
    Member
    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    One of my good friends in a male who works with me. We often go out for lunch, go out after work, or if my SO and I throw a party/BBQ he’s most certainly invited if he wanted to stop by. Ive always had closer male friends so my SO isnt threatened at all. 

    Post # 38
    Member
    965 posts
    Busy bee

    I have male coworkers on facebook. Well at least one or two and it dosnt mean much. Just coworkers I consider friends. 

    Post # 39
    Member
    2968 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    With the exception of one other girl, I work with all men, and I have quite a few of their numbers! Usually only work related texts, but a couple of them I send funny memes on occasion. 

    Post # 40
    Member
    8 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I work with a very tight knit group of people-of the 7 of them, 5 are guys and we are all very close friends.  We see each other every day at work (a dangerous job that I need to trust my coworkers with my life), some of us also work together at a SECOND part time job, and almost every weekend we all have “family fun night” and get together and play games and cook dinners together.  It’s like a family and I feel like they’re my brothers.  My Fiance (fiancee, I think that’s how its abbreviated here, I’m new to the site) knows all of them and we all hang out together.  He knows we all text (lots of silly stuff, work gossip, etc) so it’s fine.  I’m lucky to not only have a job I love, but work with people I truly love as well.  So yes, I have everyone’s numbers!!  

    Post # 41
    Member
    561 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Yeah, they are coworkers and friends.  Our job is very stressful and we work late nights and sometimes need help.  But more than that, our job is very stressful and sometimes we need each other to say “chill out, you are overreacting.  want a beer?”

     

    My husband is a litigation attorney as well.  He has never been bothered by my relationships with coworkers, except when a former coworker was giving me problems years ago.  T

    Post # 42
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    4028 posts
    Honey bee

    At my work, we have three different buildings (I work for a middle and high school) and I travel off site at times as well. It’s necessary to have other people’s numbers, both male and female, to get ahold of them or for them to reach me.

    I text quite a few of my co-workers about work and occasionally non-work related topics. My boss is male and he texts me often–as in 5-10 times a day- for updates on certain numbers/reports, whether tasks have been completed, etc. It doesn’t bother me or Darling Husband at all (he is DH’s boss as well, so he knows him). 

    As other’s have said, it’s only inappropriate if you make it inappropriate. Sounds like this other person is either really insecure or just a little weird.

    Post # 43
    Member
    460 posts
    Helper bee

    I am interested why you have several threads going on about your husband and the appropriateness of his relationship with his female colleagues.  You keep saying you have no problem but I am inclined to think you are worried about something!

     

    Post # 44
    Member
    594 posts
    Busy bee

    I don’t – I only have my male boss’s number, and that’s only for work related things. I know I’m odd, but I’m never that comfortable calling/texting straight men for anything non-work related!

    Post # 45
    Member
    144 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Yep I do and mostly they are friends. I don’t personally have any issue with male/female friendships – gender doesn’t matter to me when it comes to friends. I also trust my husband implicitly so if he has friends at work or elsewhere who are female, that’s fine I don’t care. I have two male work colleagues who have become good friends and I would be sad not to have them in my life just because they are male! They are both also in long term relationships (not that that makes a difference) so there has never been any question from either of us that it is anything other than friendship. 

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