(Closed) Do you have that one bridesmaid…

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ugh…me too!!!!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think everyone does.  Mine JUST ordered her dress today.  I’m getting married in less than 10 weeks–doesn’t leave much time for alterations.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

This is why I didn’t have bridesmaids. Way too many posts like this for it to seem worth it to me.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I do too!!!! Showed up late to my bridal shower and she’s my cousin!! Said she got lost but she was supposed to be there an hour early to help set up!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I had two, but they aren’t bridesmaids anymore! =P

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t yet, but I bet it will be my little sister!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

yuppp….ive kicked her out 2 times….she just called me today and apologized…so shes back in lol.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yup, I had two.  Two bridesmaids that refused to order the size of dresses that the store recommended based on their measurements.  Both dresses were too small… both of them waited until the last minute to get their alterations done.  Thank GOD one of them knows how to sew because I found out after the fact that she altered her own dress the night before the wedding and that she had to let it out so much that there was barely enough fabric to sew together. One of these same girls didn’t buy her shoes for the wedding and another Bridesmaid or Best Man had to go buy a pair of shoes for her.  Seriously?  I told you 6 months before the wedding to buy ANY pair of gold strappy heels that you want and you can’t be bothered?  I bought them their dresses too.

Some people are just better off being guests, because then they can make it all about themself and it doesn’t have to affect you.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I have to admit, I am a little worried. My sister had gastric bypass surgery recently, so there is no way to know what size she will be by the wedding, so we will be ordering her dress at the last minute. I am 9 months out, but I am worried about picking a style now that might now be in stock then, or discontinued or that she might not get it in time. I have a friend who had that happen, and she had to do a mad scramble a week before her wedding, switching out off the rack dresses for the ones she had ordered, and not received. I am doing my best not to think about it.

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Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@SandyThePoet: You could always order her a dress that is larger then she thinks she will be and have her get it altered down.  9 months is a long time, but if you pick a fairly simple style you should be able to have her alter her dress to have it fit her as she slims down without losing the integrity of the gown.  You could even have a seamstress put in a corset back so that she can cinch it in as she loses weight.

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I thought I was going to, but I’ve been pleasantly surprised with her so far. We’ll see how it goes now it’s getting into crunch time.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have one so far,and we still have awhile to go.My Fiance wanted both his sisters in my wedding.I was just gonna have one.But he wanted both.So I said okay whatever.

Now one of the sisters is good,has her life together and is overall good at helping,organizing,etc.

The other one is not.Though she is nice enough.She has told me to let her know if I ever need her.

So I recently decided to go dress shopping.Went with one of my BM’s who was available at short notice.I picked three dresses and having a hard time deciding!So I was gonna come back that Sunday.

So I called them all up and asked if they could come.Three could make it.One Future Sister-In-Law couldnt because she has a getogether planned with her family at a lake.She then told me that when we are done at the bridal shop come on down with us.So thats what we were planning on doing.

The three BM’s who said they could make it,is the FSIL(1) I thought I could trust,another FSIL(2) and another FSIL(3)(brothers girlfriend,everyone knows they will marry one day).Another of my BM’s couldnt come because she lives in another state.

Anyway,we were all planning on going to the lake after the bridal shop.So that morning,I got a text from the FSIL(1) I didnt want in my wedding party.She said she couldnt make it.So I texted her back and told her I hope everything is okay.

Went to the bridal shop and got lots of help from the 2 BD’s that did show up.When the FSIL(2) asked where the FSIL(1) was I told her that she texted me and said that she cant make it.Im guessing she has had experience with this girl,because she rolled her eyes.

So I picked the dress,and FSIL(2) said she will feed her baby,and depending on the baby they may or may not go to the lake.So FSIL(3) and I headed out to the lake.My Fiance was gonna meet us there.

We got there and low  and behold,guess who was already there???Thats right,FSIL(1)!!!! I have to admit I was pissed.She didnt even know about the lake event until that morning(just like the rest of us).She could have done what we did.Bridal shop and then the lake.

U already commited to coming with me,but then u bail out on the day of because u found out about it that morning!!

So I do not trust her anymore to help me whatsoever.She has said to contact her when I needed any help,well I did and u burned me on most important decision of the wedding,the dress.And u burned me on the very first time I asked u for any help at all!!!

So I wont be asking for her help at all.Shes not going near the std’s the invites or even the decorations.I was planning on having the wedding party come with us to decorate the hall the night before,but Im really considering only myself and my Fiance if he wants to be there.I dont know yet.

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