(Closed) Do you have the kind of friendships they show on FRIENDS?

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Do You Have FRIENDS level friendships in your life?

    Yes, I have super-close friendships with 'my girls' like they show with Rachel, Phoebe & Monica

    I have one best friend whom I share this level of closeness with

    I have lots of friends, but not at the super-close confidante level they show on FRIENDS

    I have this level of closeness with others (ie partner, family member) but not with my friends

    I wish I had this but I don't / can't seem to find it

    I don't have this, but by choice as I'm more of a private person / loner

    I think this is only idealized on a TV show and not a true-to-life representaiton of friendships

    No opinion, I just like voting on polls so I can see the responses

  • Post # 2
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

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    @RobbieAndJuliahaha  I do! I have several female besties and they would do anything for me and vice versa. Yes, I can and do tell them anything.

    What I loved about that show is that those girls treated each other so well off camera too. Jen Aniston insisted they all negotiate as a team, so everyone was paid the same, when she could have gotten more. 

    Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    In my early twenties, I had a group like this. Now I have a few super-tight friendships, but not a group. I have one Friends-level BFF in town, but as my friends and I have scattered across the country/globe, I don’t have that same core-BFF group dynamic, which is fine for me. I’m so busy with work and my personal life that it’s easier to only coordinate two people’s schedules for hangouts, instead of a ton of schedules. 

    Post # 4
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I actually would like to think my best friend and I have a better friendship than those portrayed on Friends, but it’s not exactly the same.  However I have been friends with her for over 25 years (since we were 7 or 8).  I can tell her anything and I can count on her to give me a rock-solid opinion about it.  I might not choose to tell her some things, but I could if I wanted to.  We live nowhere near each other but have still maintained that friendship status.  

    I also had two friends who fit into the more fun, giggly tell each other anything category.  Neither one attended my wedding, neither one RSVPd until I contacted them, neither one has spoken to me since (except I just got a message checking my address, probably so I can get invited to her second wedding.).  So yeah, that’s that I guess.  Sometimes people can seem like very close friends, but they can’t maintain it once you move too far out of their radius.

    And a fourth friend who I can pick up and drop off easy as pie (and vice versa).  We don’t chat a lot, and we don’t share our deepest thoughts, but if I call her and say I’m in town, she’ll always make time for me.  And if for some reason she ever traveled out here, I’d do the same. It’s like we were never apart, really.  I don’t know how you’d categorize a friend like that.

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee

    I have a few very close girlfriends. I’m a very private person, so I don’t think friendships like the ones in “Friends” would work for me. I need lots of personal space lol. 

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I wish i did but no. My school friends are all still in touch and really close but I lost touch with them and it does make me sad when I hear about their annual Christmas lunch and being each other’s Bridesmaid or Best Man. 

    The last year I have started to allow friendships to form and hopefully over the years a bond will form. 

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I have this type of closeness with my husband and maybe my mom but no one else. I have 1 or 2 friends that I stay close with but it’s nothing like this. Definitely something I’ve always wanted in my life but personal goals/school/life plans always made it difficult.

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Oh, and growing up, I found that this type of friendship was also idolized in the books I read as well!! Think Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants. I just never had those kinds of friendships pretty much ever. I think that a lot of time friends like these are almost accidentally/coincidentally thrown into your life and it’s almost fate that you meet LOL.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I hated every single oen of those characters so I’m glad I don’t have any friends liek them, lol.

    Monica was too bossy… High strung… It can appear funny, but IRL it’d get ANNOYING. She’d be the type who FLIPPED if you changed plans – to th epoint you don’t even want to make them.

    Phoebe is too weird and not an entertaining or interesting weird. Just a cross the street, no thank you weird.

    Rachel is too damn plain. She bores me.

    When I was younger we had a TIGHT group, but we all grew up. No I’m more like bella from twilight haha

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

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    @MKWeddingBee  It’s definitely accident/fate! My BFF who I have this kind of relaionship with, we met because her and her BF were moving in across the hall from me and DH (then my BF), and since they were around our age and we were trying to make friends, we invited them over to play board games with us. Since then she and I have been BFFs, but DH and her BF are just friends by association. 

    Really, what are the chances that we’d all get along so well?

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