Post # 1
Hi All- I do not have the budget to pay for all my bridesmaids hair and makeup, and likewise am totally fine having them do it on their own. Logistically, my wedding is pretty far away from where I am getting my hair and makeup done (over an hour from the site, and over an hour from where most bridesmaids are staying). Is it rude to just ask them to show up ready a few hours before the wedding (which is probably as quick as I would be able to get there after my appointments)?
Post # 2
No, you do not have to get ready with your bridesmaids. If your bridesmaids are staying nearby to the venue and they would have to travel over an hour in order to get ready with you, then I would be definitely saying that this is unnecessary – it would be such an inconvenience for them. I think asking them to show up at the venue or wherever you’re meeting at X time would be fine. Do they all know each other? Perhaps they could get ready together or help out with each other’s hair/makeup if need be?
Post # 3
You definitely don’t have to get ready with them, even though not doing so is a bit unorthodox. Have you asked any of them if they are interested in doing hair and makeup at their own expense? They might want to spend this time with you. Otherwise — let them get ready on their own like you suggested and meet up when you’re all gussied up!
Post # 4
nope, I only had my Maid/Matron of Honor get ready with me. The rest of the girls came over all ready to take pictures and get to the limo
Post # 5
I would give them the option to pay for their own hair and makeup and go with you. I would be happy to pay and spend time with the bride.
Post # 6
thumperbear: They have all been really stingy in terms of expenses though (they havent offered to contribute to any pre-parties and my MoH says they seem worried about money) so I feel this is also another way to ask/pressure them to pony up for another expense, which is another reason I am hesistant to do this….
Post # 7
summerbride0815: You definitely don’t have to! I am because I want to and think it will be so fun! But in your situation it might be a little bit of a hassle for the BMs if they aren’t getting their hair and make up done where you are. You could still all put your dresses on together? Or if there is time you can show up with your hair and make up done while they are stll doing theirs?
Post # 8
summerbride0815: oh ok, fair enough. You don’t want them saying they felt obliged.
Maybe your Maid/Matron of Honor might offer to go with you 🙂