Post # 1
1) you’ve already given one at the bridal shower (from the registry so it’s not some token knick knack)
2) you’re in the bridal party and have already spent about $500 towards this wedding
My husband seems to think so. I think a nice card and $100, if that, would be more than adequate. He disagrees and thinks we should give more. Keep in mind we’re trying to save $ for our own honeymoon. We’ve been arguing about this and I’m so frustrated. HELP!
Post # 3
@Aquaria: A nice card and $100 is plenty.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I think what you’ve already given is plenty.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
When I give a gift at the bridal shower that is my wedding gift to the couple. If you want to add in a card and $100, you are super generous!
Post # 7
I think if you give a gift at the shower, you do NOT need to give a gift at the wedding.
Post # 8
I agree with your husband. You have to give a gift, and I think you should give what you normally would give, even if you are in the bridal party. If you would normally give more than $100, you should here as well.
The shower is a separate gift from the wedding gift. Same goes for engagement party gifts.
Post # 9
shower and wedding gifts are seperate. I would give what you normally give. In my case, that would be a place setting (or other $60ish item) for the shower and $100 and a card for the wedding. How much more does your husband thing you should give?
Post # 10
I don’t think you ever HAVE to give a gift, but in your situation I agree with your husband. If I go to a shower, or even multiple showers for the same person, I always bring my typical $75-100 gift and always give my typical $200-300 check for the wedding even if I am part of the bridal party.
That being said, some of our wedding party memebers did not give us anything and we don’t care at all that they didn’t. It’s just not what we would do.
Post # 11
Other than the shower, which is a gift giving event, I don’t think you are obligated as a guest to give a gift at the wedding. However, I think the majority of people do in order to be polite.
I think your suggestion is just fine, especially since you are in the bridal party, and I think the couple would appreciate it.
Post # 12
By The Way I forgot to mention the destination bachelor party (husband is in the wedding, not me). in a swanky hotel. At the casino. I didn’t even bother asking how much he spent there because I know it’ll make me sick, yeah that’s in addition to the other $500.
Post # 13
I would still give a wedding gift but think $100 is very generous, don’t see the need to go higher.
Post # 14
Yes you should definitely still give a gift. Enough to cover both your plate and your SO’s plate and a tad bit extra.
Post # 15
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
$100 is plenty, I know lots of people say if you’re in the party not to give a gift…. but I always do.
Post # 16
@Aquaria: I was told that if you’re in the bridal party and pay for all of your things then that is considered your “wedding gift” to the couple. I think that it’s the same as if you have already given a gift at the bridal shower. The one wedding that I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in I did give a small gift too, but only because it was a small amount spent on our Bridesmaid or Best Man things. If you end up giving another gift, or on top of the $500 you’ve already spent, then I see you to be very kind and generous!