Post # 1
I’m asking because my engagement ring is 4.5 carats. Not because that’s something I wanted, or even cared about. He could have given me a cracker jack ring, and I would have been thrilled. (he said the reason he spent so much on it was because he knew I didn’t care, and that made him want to go over the top..aweeee) Don’t get me wrong, this ring is gorgeous, and of course I love it….but to have to buy a wedding band on top of this, just seems like a little much. Okay, A LOT much. My best friend keeps telling me how amazing the ring will look when i get a wedding band with it. But I don’t even want one. Is it weird to just wear one ring? And if so would I just take it off to use it for the ceremony?
Post # 3
I think you should have a band. because it is symbolic. Even a simple, plain no diamond band…. each ring signifies something… so the wedding band shows you are married and not just engaged.
can you post pix of your ring? i wanna see this beauty!
Post # 4
@Crazyhair: You don’t “have” to do anything. It’s your wedding, your life, your relationship! Do what works for you and your man. 🙂 One of my sorority sisters got married last year and she didn’t get a wedding band b/c her e-ring was so thick and blingy on its own.
Post # 5
If you don’t want one, don’t get one. No one can tell you that you must have one. However, be prepared to answer questions of “when is your wedding” or “are you married yet” as people look to the finger and wedding band as a sign that you are already married.
My cousin opted for no wedding band due to costs and she is itching to get one. She said last week that she didn’t feel married just looking at the e-ring and is saving up for a simple band.
To each their own.
Post # 6
I’m of an extreemly strong opinion that you should do whatever you feel comfortable with. I am not planning to have a band because I have rather chubby fingers and didn’t like the look of two bands on my fingers (yes, I tried about 100 on, no joke). I eventually had my center stone reset into a split shank halo which sort of looks like two bands but is only one ring. Now, not everyone agrees with my decision, but it’s a personal choice and since my Fiance and I are comfortable with it, it doesn’t really matter in my opinion who doesn’t like it (besides, they should have better things to worry about than what number of rings I have on my hand).
Post # 7
You don’t have to wear any sort of anything. Yes, it is symbolic, but does not wearing a ring mean your relationship is doomed? Absolutely not. Is doing what makes you happy (both you and FI) and not simply following all the rules going to make your relationship stronger? Probably (at least a little, though maybe not as much in this case).
Post # 8
Nope, you definitely don’t need one.
Post # 9
@Crazyhair: I worked in a jewelry store when I first started college and I saw firsthand that a lot of women choose not to wear bands now. It isn’t necessary if you’re not attached to the traditional symbolism. I’m sure it’d look nice though 🙂
Post # 10
girl i have to see this 4.5 ct ring where is the ring porn?????
Post # 11
I think your answers confused me even more! I wouldn’t so much be opposed to getting something inexpensive and plain just to fend of questions about when is the wedding, but I’m not sure how it would look.
(and I’m trying to figure out how to imbed pics in my post…)
Post # 12
If you don’t want one, don’t get one. BUT if I were you before making any decisions, I would look at some dainty/thin wedding bands and see if you like the way they look with your ring because I just love the symbolism of the wedding band 🙂
Post # 13
I won’t have one. Here is the inspiration for the ring I’m having made:
It would look completely silly to have a separate ring with this one. The symbolism is there – why have two? Also, the “symbolism” idea didn’t evolve until the last 80 or so years, and even then only really in American cultures, so it’s definitely not necessary.
Post # 14
Also – when girls have HUGE rings and then tack on a wedding ring, I think, why even bother? It just looks like their finger is covered in ring, which looks like overkill. Stick to just your beautiful ring!
Post # 15
I am in the same boat (minus the 4.3 carat rock – mine is 1 carat). My band on my e-ring is THIN. I like the way it looks much better without the band so I have been asking people’s opinions.
When I asked my mom, she said she would go for a wedding band because of the symbolism.
When I asked the jeweler who resized my band, she said normally people get a wedding band when they have a thin band e-ring. It is more common for people to go without a wedding band if the band on the e-ring is thick. Then she told me she thinks I should do whatever I think looks best.. it’s my ring.
My ring was passed down to me so I already have the matching wedding band. I don’t think I’ll use it for anything but the ceremony though. Maybe one day I’ll put it on and feel like wearing it.
It really can be simple – if you don’t want it, don’t get it!