(Closed) Do you have to include your exact wedding location on your invitations?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am sorry you are having all of this drama. I suggest you just not invite anyone that you won’t be talking to after the wedding. I also think that you need to have the location on the invitation, so they know how to plan. They will want to get accomodations close by. I don’t think it is fair to your guests not to include the address on the invites.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oook… Yes, you need to put an address on your invitations.  HOWEVER invites don’t need to go out until 8 weeks prior to the wedding, and at that point you’ll be so busy they can google until their fingers fall off and you’ll be too busy to care.  If you’re doing a save the date, there’s no reason it can’t just say “Jack and Jill, 2011-09-03, French Riveriera”

Obviously things are a bit different with a destination wedding in that people will be making plans before 8 weeks out, but if you’re cool with dealing with the people who WILL come one on one to assist them with their plans, or are planning on booking accomodations for everybody it might not be a problem.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow, that is terrible that people want to get into your finacial business like that.  I agree with noritake that you definatly should NOT invite anyone to your big day that you dont plan on even speaking to after the wedding and I wouldnt invite anyone who isnt truly going to be there for YOU.  That is terrible that they are doing this to you right after dealing with your fathers death.  If you have time id focus a bit on your mourning process;  I know when my dad died it was so hard on me, 15 years later and i still feel it difficult.  Him not being able to walk me down the isle was so hard I couldnt even emagine how hard it would be if he had died that close to my acual wedding time.

Also, it is very important to put the exact and correct location address on your invites.  On my invites i put the right addresses and then made a blooper on my programs–people had a hard time finding the reception hall because of incorrect address.  Some people ended up not finding the location at all and just went back to their hotels and homes.

Good luck and remember to take some time for yourself!  It is very important

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Do save-the-dates now so people can plan ahead for plane tickets, and maybe even plan to stay a few extra days since it’s a long flight. If you block hotel rooms and let everyone know that is certainly enough for now. You can have the venue just on the invitations 12-8 weeks out as SapphireSun said.

Also, I’ve never seen venue prices posted on websites – you usually have to call and ask because it varies by day and season. If they’re crazy enough to call vendors they aren’t your friends, and even if they are family and you will have to deal with them in the future, don’t let it get to you. It’s your day – cheap or expensive it will be how you want it.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

This is a rough situation to be in, but, realistically, they can look it up now or they can look it up in a few months when you have to tell them – the only way to gaurantee no one can look up how much your venue charges is to not invite anyone at all!

Fortunately, it doesn’t really matter what people think, right? Like you said, you’re not the competitive one, so when you talk to people about stuff, just stress how excited you are to be marrying the man you love, not the details of the wedding. Or mention casually how glad you were to get a deal on xyz (even if you didn’t) – they don’t need to know how much money you’ve ‘saved’. A lot of our vendors/venues worked with us on pricing, almost no one actually charged us what their posted rates are.

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