(Closed) Do you have to invite people to your wedding if they invited you to theirs?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

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marryingbee:  The general rule I’ve heard is that if you haven’t spoken in 2 years, don’t invite. If they wanted to keep in touch, they would have. And your wedding isn’t really the place to spark the friendship again. Chances are, you wouldn’t spend more than 5 minutes talking to them anyways.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

If I haven’t spoken to you in a year, I generally wouldn’t send an invite

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Nope you don’t need to invite them. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2025

If you haven’t spoken to or seen them in a year, that’s enough for me to not invite them to the wedding! 

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soontobemrsKB92615 also makes a great point that you probably wouldn’t spend much time talking to them at the wedding. Something to think about!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

It’s not expected, rude or weird to not invite them if the only reason for doing so would be that they invited you to their events. Things change, some people have small weddings, some people have huge families and cannot invite a large number of others, etc. I’d weigh the chances of an invite seeming like a gift grab if you aren’t in touch and don’t anticipate they would be able to come due to being international.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

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marryingbee:  I wouldn’t invite them. I went to a “friends” wedding this past November, but they’re not getting invited to ours. He is a friend of my Fiance, but they don’t talk regularly or anything like that. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

Not required at all. You don’t have to return the favor, even if they lived in the same town as you. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI

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marryingbee:  I hate the expectation that one invitation means another is expected. Personally, I think it’s a dated concept. I had some pressure to invite some of MILs friends she hadn’t seen in 15 years to our small intimate wedding for that reason (love her to death, and she understood pretty quickly when I explained my feelings)!  Invite the people you want to be there, but because you feel obligated.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

No you do not need to invite someone just bc they invited you

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