Post # 1
Hi bees, how do you handle inviting people that you’ve fallen out of touch with over the past couple years? I used to have a few close coworkers and friends who moved out of the country (2-3 years), and they are not big on email or social networking, so I haven’t heard at all from them during this time. However, we were fairly close a few years ago, hanging out regularly, and those who got married back then invited me to their weddings. Now that we haven’t talked for a couple years, is it rude or weird or just expected if I don’t return the invitation? I seriously doubt they would come, because it’s so far. I don’t mind inviting them, would be delighted if one of them were to come, but it seems a bit random for me to pop in after this long radio silence and I have no idea what they’ve been up to.
Post # 2
The general rule I’ve heard is that if you haven’t spoken in 2 years, don’t invite. If they wanted to keep in touch, they would have. And your wedding isn’t really the place to spark the friendship again. Chances are, you wouldn’t spend more than 5 minutes talking to them anyways.
Post # 3
If I haven’t spoken to you in a year, I generally wouldn’t send an invite
Post # 4
Nope you don’t need to invite them.
Post # 5
If you haven’t spoken to or seen them in a year, that’s enough for me to not invite them to the wedding!
also makes a great point that you probably wouldn’t spend much time talking to them at the wedding. Something to think about!
Post # 6
It’s not expected, rude or weird to not invite them if the only reason for doing so would be that they invited you to their events. Things change, some people have small weddings, some people have huge families and cannot invite a large number of others, etc. I’d weigh the chances of an invite seeming like a gift grab if you aren’t in touch and don’t anticipate they would be able to come due to being international.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
I wouldn’t invite them. I went to a “friends” wedding this past November, but they’re not getting invited to ours. He is a friend of my Fiance, but they don’t talk regularly or anything like that.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
Not required at all. You don’t have to return the favor, even if they lived in the same town as you.
Post # 9
- Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI
I hate the expectation that one invitation means another is expected. Personally, I think it’s a dated concept. I had some pressure to invite some of MILs friends she hadn’t seen in 15 years to our small intimate wedding for that reason (love her to death, and she understood pretty quickly when I explained my feelings)! Invite the people you want to be there, but because you feel obligated.
Post # 10
No you do not need to invite someone just bc they invited you