Do you *have* to love your in-laws?

posted 1 month ago in Family
Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I don’t even like half of them, let alone love. A couple of his siblings are really crappy human beings. 

Post # 32
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2020 - Covington, KY

I don’t LOVE all my future in-laws and that’s okay. Don’t get me wrong, I like them but they are a bit different than I’m used to. They arent super affection family, can be a bit hectic but they are overall nice people who know how to have fun. I think having even a decent relationship will help but again you dont have to love them.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Don’t put so much pressure on yourself.  Relationships can blossom over time.  And if not, that’s ok too.  Just be kind and respectful and see what happens.

Post # 34
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Busy bee

I don’t like my Mother-In-Law because she is rude and overbearing. I simply show her politeness and kindness because she is my husband’s mother. I adore my Father-In-Law. He’s so sweet. I don’t know my Brother-In-Law very well but he is a great dad and wonderful older brother to my husband. I do like him and respect him.

Post # 35
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2019

With my own parents, I love them but also they annoy the crap out of me, too you know? So it kind of helps me to think about that with my inlaws- they made my husband and my annoying parents made me and somehow…we don’t annoy each other, and thats some kind of bizarre alchemy that works and someday we’ll drive our kids partners round the bend. 

I’m not in love with my inlaws. They drive me crazy regularly. they’re not mean people but…man do they get under my skin in all kinds of ways. To me…i dunno, I’ve accepted that if they’re sick we’ll rearrange our lives to help them. If they’re broke, it will partly be on us to figure out their lives. I think that’s more important than if my Mother-In-Law and I like to brunch together, that I’ve taken them on, with open eyes about how crazy they’ll make me forever, accepting that responsiblity.

Only you can decide how much crazy is worth the marriage. For me, I love my husband. I’d take worse in laws for him. Ive had boyfriends with parents I found easier….but I didn’t love the boyfriends as much. 

Post # 36
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2020

I don’t think you have to love them. But because you love your partner you should want to at least keep the peace when you can. 

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