(Closed) Do you have to re-invite the same people?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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599 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Ooo, that’s a tough one. I think if I sent a save the date to someone, then yes I would feel obligated to invite them. You are just going to create MORE negativity if you kind of “take back” and invite, which STD’s are viewed as. Hopefully the negative ones will decide they can’t make it!

Post # 4
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7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

When will the changed wedding be held?  

I think it’s fine if you choose not to invite people to the wedding that were on the original guest list.  If they inquire, you can say you decided to do something on a smaller scale, etc.  

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Did you send out announcements of the postponement to everyone you sent the save the date to?

This is a tough one.  I’m not sure this is proper etiquette (it probably isn’t), but if you hadn’t sent out a postponemet announcement, I might send one now saying that due to personal reaons (or another reason) you have decided to postpone the wedding and have a smaller itimate ceremony.  Apologize and thank them for their support etc.

Post # 8
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521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’d say yes.  It’s only a 2 month postponement.  It’s the same wedding, really.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Honestly, I’d say that if the wedding itself has changed then don’t invite those you wouldnt feel comfortable having there. This is a tough one though.. I’m sure the responses here are going to be pretty split

Post # 10
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327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

How much different/smaller is the wedding going to be? I think if there is a substantial difference, then you don’t need to re-invite the same people. Esp since you sent out postponement announcements. If the wedding you’re now planning is going to be at the same place with a similar sized guest list (more than 20-25% fewer guests) I’d say you should invite everyone who got a STD.

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