(Closed) Do you have to say vows?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
2475 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

The only words I want to come out of my mouth are “I do!”  I’m pretty sure I’ll be too nervous to say anything else – so we are foregoing doing our own vows.

Post # 4
2007 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think it’s fairly common to just do the “I do” bit.  If that’s what feels best to you then definitely go for it.  No one will think it odd.

Post # 5
1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My fi and I don’t really like the idea of publicly reciting all of our mushy mushy stuff (plus I don’t want to cry) so we’re not writing our own vows. We’re just sticking with the good ol’ I do’s 🙂 I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it.

Post # 6
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i made it quite clear to our rabbi that the only words i will be speaking are “i do.” no public speaking for me!

Post # 8
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

As much as I wou LOVE to write vows, I still dont want to be overly mushy. So I too think we will just stick to the i do’s. Maybe I will have the pastor say a reading that wraps up our feelings without us having to talk 😉

Post # 9
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

check with your officiant–usually there are legal requirements as to what must be said.  In most places, you certainly have to indicate your consent (i will/I do), but might have to say more.

Post # 10
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

There are certain words that must be said for the ceremony to be considered legally valid. Check with your minister to see what those requirements are.

Post # 11
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I wanted to say only I do, too!
However, since we didn’t know what the ceremony would look like (DW, no rehearsal or anything), Darling Husband thought it would be a good idea to write some, just in case we thought the ceremony was too un-personal.
We ended up saying our vows (they were short, but very sweet, and US); and I have to say, it made the ceremony so much more special for us.
Neither of us like to speak in public, but we only had 14 guests, so is this really public? And, more important, during the ceremony, it felt like we were alone in the world, and listening to him say his words, and then telling him mine, felt wonderful.

So anyway, absolutely nothing wrong with sticking with I Do, but personal vows are totally worth it, IMO.


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