(Closed) do you have to send plus ones to single girls

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think that if you put +one on the invite it will be okay, or if you just put their name, and ask the number attending. If they have questions then they should call you. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

if they are your friends i am assuming you know if they are dating someone? I would suggest that you contact the single girls and ask them who they would bring IF they had a plus one.

what i am doing is not doing any plus ones for anyone – there are a couple folks who are dating folks but i dont know them. basically for a plus one for me they had to be married, engaged, or life partners. everyone is fine with that. for the ones who have been in a relationship for almost a year or so i let them know that when it gets closer if we have RSVP no’s and have the room i will let them know if they can bring an extra person. everyone understands.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

if #s are an issue, send them a plus one invite if they have been dating someone for a while, but dont feel obligated to give them a plus one if they are single..i think its perfectly acceptable to just send them an invite

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I was actually worried about who my plus ones would bring to the wedding, but now that the responses are in a lot of them are going stag. I think for a wedding, most people would bring a date that they know pretty well, or else it can be kind of awkward. Definitely not a first date kind of event. I think most people will know not to bring a random person to your wedding as their plus one, and you might be surprised that a lot of them might come alone!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You probably won’t send out invites until a couple months before the wedding; by then you should probably know who is dating someone and who isn’t. 

For my girls, I gave them a + one but told them that I preferred that they only bring a guest if it was someone they were dating, ie, not the guy they met last Saturday at the bar.  They actually were all very responsive to that, a few even said they would rather attend a wedding alone than with a guy they barely knew.  So you might not even have to worry about your friends bringing randoms. 

 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I totally see both sides.  I never really like to go by myself but I also don’t like having randoms at the wedding.  I recently got a reply card for a family I invited and they are letting their daughter bring her boyfriend.  Talk about weird!!!!!!!!!

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