Post # 1
i want my friends to bring a date if they are dating someone, however i don’t want them to bring a date just to bring one or bring a friend that is not on the guest list how do you say this.
I was thinking that i would write the invitation to just them and tell them if they are dating someone they could bring them?
Post # 3
I think that if you put +one on the invite it will be okay, or if you just put their name, and ask the number attending. If they have questions then they should call you.
Post # 4
if they are your friends i am assuming you know if they are dating someone? I would suggest that you contact the single girls and ask them who they would bring IF they had a plus one.
what i am doing is not doing any plus ones for anyone – there are a couple folks who are dating folks but i dont know them. basically for a plus one for me they had to be married, engaged, or life partners. everyone is fine with that. for the ones who have been in a relationship for almost a year or so i let them know that when it gets closer if we have RSVP no’s and have the room i will let them know if they can bring an extra person. everyone understands.
Post # 5
if #s are an issue, send them a plus one invite if they have been dating someone for a while, but dont feel obligated to give them a plus one if they are single..i think its perfectly acceptable to just send them an invite
Post # 6
I was actually worried about who my plus ones would bring to the wedding, but now that the responses are in a lot of them are going stag. I think for a wedding, most people would bring a date that they know pretty well, or else it can be kind of awkward. Definitely not a first date kind of event. I think most people will know not to bring a random person to your wedding as their plus one, and you might be surprised that a lot of them might come alone!
Post # 7
You probably won’t send out invites until a couple months before the wedding; by then you should probably know who is dating someone and who isn’t.
For my girls, I gave them a + one but told them that I preferred that they only bring a guest if it was someone they were dating, ie, not the guy they met last Saturday at the bar. They actually were all very responsive to that, a few even said they would rather attend a wedding alone than with a guy they barely knew. So you might not even have to worry about your friends bringing randoms.
Post # 8
I totally see both sides. I never really like to go by myself but I also don’t like having randoms at the wedding. I recently got a reply card for a family I invited and they are letting their daughter bring her boyfriend. Talk about weird!!!!!!!!!