(Closed) Do you have to wear long dresses to “Black tie preferred” …

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
521 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

as far as I have been told: black tie usually = very formal which = long dresses.

but if it doesn’t matter to you, than I don’t think it really stands…just really depends on your formal view of the wedding

Post # 4
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Even with some black tie balls I’ve been to girls have been in calf-length cocktail dresses and they didn’t look underdressed or anything.

Post # 5
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i think it depends where you live. around here you can wear short dresses to black tie. i went to a wedding in ny and i was very out of place in a short dress.

Post # 6
1956 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

Especially if it’s Black Tie Preferred and not just straight up Black Tie, I think cocktail length dresses are TOTALLY appropriate.  I’ve been to many formal events where woman wear a short dress and I’ve never thought they looked underdressed at all!

Post # 7
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

if it’s black tie preferred or optional, that means guests can show up in something formal, that’s less than blacktie.. so a short dress is totally doable!

Post # 8
45 posts
  • Wedding: April 2010

A lot of it can depend on what time of day the wedding is also. A short dress may be more acceptable if it is a daytime or early afternoon wedding. For an evening wedding, you’ll see a lot less people wearing a short dress if it’s Black Tie but people still do it. Just find some dressy shoes!!

Post # 9
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

If it doesn’t matter to you, why is it on your invitation? Random, I know =].

Usually means long but I think everyone chalks up “black tie” to a very nice dress now. Meaning something *too* nijce to wear to a regular wedding. Id probably bust out one of my fancier dresses that have embellishments on them. No, scratch that–i have a gorgeous long black sweetheart dress, slim-skirt style with a slit up the thigh. Not tacky looking tho. it’s just not an a-line so you gotta have room to move! I’m DYING to wear it SOMEWHERE.

Post # 10
66 posts
Worker bee

I agree that if it’s “black tie PREFERRED,” there’s some flexibility.  I think shorter is okay, but longer is the safe choice.

Post # 11
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I personally wouldntn’t care either.  I think that it *used* to be that way, but not really anymore.  I mean look at he evolution of formal dresses… lately I have seen more short formals than the long ones that we wore to prom..I seriously didn’t see one short prom dress when I was in HS, and now I see them all over stores that time of year. lol.

Post # 12
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

As some one who doesn’t even own a long dress, I would just assume that I could wear a fancy-shmancy cocktail length dress.

Post # 13
3285 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

i’d say any REASONABLE length, heh – and thinking about my wardrobe, I don’t have any dresses that are long besides previous bridesmaid dresses I have hanging in my closet, haha.

Post # 14
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

So I didn’t want to write Black Tie on our invites because I thought it was a bit much yet we are have a super formal late Saturday night wedding. Knowing my family & friends, I sent poll out to many, both male & female, different age groups asking what they would wear to a wedding that was Black Tie, Black Tie requested or Black Tie optional. I was curious as to who would come formal or not. I was super suprised to see my parents generation (early 60s) replied dressing very casual and my peers (early 30s) for the most part went with tuxes and gowns. Being that we prefer tuxes & gowns, we’re including Black tie requested in the invite.

Post # 15
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010 - Stage 6 Steiner Studios

I agree.  It does put a more formal spin on the event so even if I’m going to wear a short dress it’d be a fancier one. I think girls have more leeway w/dresses but black tie for guys is black tie.

Post # 16
4382 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

long dresses or fancy cocktail dresses, imho. :p

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