Post # 1
My SO is against me using any toys in the bedroom with or without him. I have never tried to do this and don’t own any, but he is very defensive when the topic comes up. He thinks I only need them if he isn’t doing a good enough job. Just wondering what the situation is with other couples.
Post # 3
I have a vibrator and damn it no man is going to come between us! Haha! My partner works alot and is fine with me having it (he actually bought it for me) and i love it. Perhaps you can talk to your man about bringing something smaller and non-threatening for you to use together? There is something called a we-vibe which is GREAT and is for couples to use together while making love. It’s the number 1 selling sex toy in the world and I can say it’s awesome!
Post # 4
Bunch of bull. He’s clearly insecure about his performance in the bedroom.
Does he masturbate?
Post # 5
I have a “silver bullet” for alone time but we don’t use any toys together.
Post # 6
Thats pretty selfish of him, imo.
Post # 7
I do have a vibrator, which my boyfriend got me. We rarely use it when we’re together, but he’s fine with me using it on my own. I know that he was originally worried that I might like the vibrator more than him, but that’s not the case, so he no longer has any insecurity about it.
Post # 8
It is pretty hard for a woman to orgasm from penetration alone so a lot of girls need something more to fully enjoy themselves.
Since I have been having problems with my hands, yes I need a littl help in the toy department.
Post # 9
I have one, but mostly use it by myself (I just find it gets in the way otherwise). Fiance doesn’t care.
Post # 10
I have a small collection of toys that get used pretty regularly either by myself or with FH. He’s not threatened by them at all – he actually suggested using them first, before I even thought about it. They could never replace him though!
Post # 11
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I have one & use it both alone & with him. I think in the beginning, he was really insecure, but he slowly noticed and learned that sex just isn’t pleasurable for me at all without it.
Post # 12
yes i use toys all the time. but i had an ex who felt insecure and i couldn’t use it with him either 🙁
Post # 13
@katydaisy: We have a bullet and that’s it. He actually bought it for me at the same time we bought some other goodies haha. He’s not insecure, he really wants to watch me but Im a little uncomfortable with that right now. He’s also the only one who has ever brought it into sex!
Post # 14
@katydaisy: My SO is the same and I get where he is coming from. He doesn’t want it to be a situation where he can no longer please me. I know that there are a lot of ladies out there who can’t wait for their SO’s to be done so that they can pull out their vibrators.
I have no problem with that. It’s a simple request I can do.
I masturbate without toys though.
Post # 15
Me and my SO wouldn’t be together now, if he thought that he could tell me not to use my toys! I used vibrators before we ever got together, and I’m sure I will using them into my 80’s. Sometimes I use toys for a little personal time. Other times, we enjoy them together. He really likes to. . . umm watch me use them. It drives him crazy. In fact last year he put 3 new toys in my Christmas stocking, and we tried them all out under the tree. It was amazing! But as much as I enjoy my toys, nothing can ever compare to the pleasure that my man gives me on his own, and he knows that, so he’s not in anyway intimidated by a few battery operated playthings.
Post # 16
My DH bought me my first vibrator when I was 20. It dawned on me then that he was a keeper.
The fact is that intercourse alone doesn’t do the job for many (most?) women. It’s a total myth that this is due to a deficiency in the man’s ability. It’s just physiology!