- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
I use them by myself, and we have great sex with and without them. SO is not intimidated by them. He knows there is no toy on earth that can replace him, but he also knows he doesn’t vibrate haha. He is pretty open minded and willl go shopping with me and make suggestions.
If you learn a bit about the clitoris, you will know that most of it is on the inside, and when it is erect it actually wraps around the vagina making penetration more pleasureable. So even if you just use a vibe during foreplay (or let him use it on you ) then throw it to the side for sex, it can mean more intense orgasms during penetration. SO loves pleasing me so obviously he loves that.
It’s fine to have preferences but would consider someone trying to dictate how I masturbate a red flag. Would you tell him he can’t jerk off when he’s alone, because it means you’re not pleasing him enough?
Secure men know they are not in competition with toys, they are just one more tool in their toolbox for pleasing their ladies,