Do you hold hands with your SO?

posted 6 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 61
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

EllyAnne :  I wonder if your coworkers have a toxic masculinity thing going on.

Post # 62
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Helper bee

Sometimes we try to hold hands but it just doesn’t work because of our height difference. We would have to stand further apart and then it feels like we’re playing red rover lol. I do think it’s cute to see couples holding hands regardless of age, you’re co-worker is odd.

Post # 63
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I see older people holding hands all the time, it never occurred to me that people viewed it as immature. 

Post # 64
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

We hold hands when we walk sometimes. Sometimes in the car too. More often, we link arms. One person can still push a grocery cart with linked arms (we grocery shop together –  he pushes the cart and I manage the list. We obviously have to let go several times to put things in the cart or move for other people, but that is usually our default position.  

I enjoy being physically close. Touch doesn’t have to be purely sexual. I assume that’s what your coworkers meant –  that holding hands is what kids do when they’re working up to other forms of sexual contact and then they let that go. 

Post # 65
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

We hold hands more sitting on the couch than we do any other place lol. I love seeing middle-aged & older couples holding hands, I think it’s so sweet that they still clearly like each other. I think your coworkers are a bunch of butts.

Post # 66
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Honey bee

My SO and I hold hands both in public or when we are just alone at home. I guess no one holds your coworkers’s hand.EllyAnne :  

Post # 67
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We hold hands quite a bit in public and I never thought of it as a high school thing.  We’re both in our 30’s.  Now that we have a baby, if I’m carrying her my husband will put his arm around my shoulder.

My college boyfriend (who I dated for 6 years) grew up in a pretty conservative family and we rarely held hands in public.  He wasn’t a PDA person at all and I had become so used to that, that when my husband and I first started dating, I felt a bit uncomfortable holding his hand in public.  I was even more surprised the first time he kissed me in front of others.

But now I like seeing couples being affectionate in public.  We all need to stop being so rigid.  I feel sorry for your coworkers OP.  Maybe they’re trying to be macho but I find it sad that they feel so strongly about this.

Post # 68
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Helper bee

Personally I’m not a hand holder- I find it awkward and claustrophobic almost. That being said, I don’t find those who do hold hands to be childish or weird, it’s just a personal preference of mine not to hold hands a ton. 

Post # 69
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Newbee

We hold hands all the time outside in public, and we hold them in private at certain times too. But definitely more in public which is fine and just makes more sense, anyway.

Post # 70
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Helper bee

Yes, I hold hands with my SO often if not almost always. But I also hold hands or link arms with immediate family members, and close friends regardless of gender. I guess I am just a hand holder…?? Nobody has ever made me think it was odd before, but I wonder if it’s cultural. For reference, I am 29 going on 30.

Post # 71
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

EllyAnne :  I think it’s funny your co-worker thought it was embarrassing. When I see an older couple holding hands, I find it incredibly sweet, endearing, and romantic. Hubby and I don’t hold hands a ton because he is really restless. He has “busy hands” in that they are always moving or fidgeting. We will always start out holding hands, but we drop them after a min because of my husband’s restless hands. Yesterday, we were walking into Target holding hands, but by the time we got to the Dollar Spot, I had to drop it because he was fidgeting. It’s just how he is, but I find it sweet he always initiates the hand holding 🙂

Post # 72
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey

Haha this thread made me laugh. Yes my husband and I hold hands quite a lot. He’s such a darling and I used to hate holding hands but ya know he got me used to it somehow over the time. Now whenever we’re not holding hands I feel awkward.

Literally 10 days after our wedding our friend was like ew stop it already. Don’t make it that obvious you’re newly wed. I hadn’t realized it was that often until she had pointed out. No hard feelings tho. 

Post # 73
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Melbourne, Australia

I love holding my husband’s hand 🙂

Post # 74
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Worker bee

EllyAnne :  My SO and I (both in early 20s) hold hands allllll the time. I really dont understand why anyone would judge a couple for holding hands, regardless of their age LOL. It’s just one of the ways couples naturally show their love for each other. 

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