Do you hold hands with your SO?

posted 3 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 61
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

EllyAnne :  I wonder if your coworkers have a toxic masculinity thing going on.

Post # 62
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Helper bee

Sometimes we try to hold hands but it just doesn’t work because of our height difference. We would have to stand further apart and then it feels like we’re playing red rover lol. I do think it’s cute to see couples holding hands regardless of age, you’re co-worker is odd.

Post # 63
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I see older people holding hands all the time, it never occurred to me that people viewed it as immature. 

Post # 64
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

We hold hands when we walk sometimes. Sometimes in the car too. More often, we link arms. One person can still push a grocery cart with linked arms (we grocery shop together –  he pushes the cart and I manage the list. We obviously have to let go several times to put things in the cart or move for other people, but that is usually our default position.  

I enjoy being physically close. Touch doesn’t have to be purely sexual. I assume that’s what your coworkers meant –  that holding hands is what kids do when they’re working up to other forms of sexual contact and then they let that go. 

Post # 65
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

We hold hands more sitting on the couch than we do any other place lol. I love seeing middle-aged & older couples holding hands, I think it’s so sweet that they still clearly like each other. I think your coworkers are a bunch of butts.

Post # 66
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Honey bee

My SO and I hold hands both in public or when we are just alone at home. I guess no one holds your coworkers’s hand.EllyAnne :  

Post # 67
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We hold hands quite a bit in public and I never thought of it as a high school thing.  We’re both in our 30’s.  Now that we have a baby, if I’m carrying her my husband will put his arm around my shoulder.

My college boyfriend (who I dated for 6 years) grew up in a pretty conservative family and we rarely held hands in public.  He wasn’t a PDA person at all and I had become so used to that, that when my husband and I first started dating, I felt a bit uncomfortable holding his hand in public.  I was even more surprised the first time he kissed me in front of others.

But now I like seeing couples being affectionate in public.  We all need to stop being so rigid.  I feel sorry for your coworkers OP.  Maybe they’re trying to be macho but I find it sad that they feel so strongly about this.

Post # 68
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Blushing bee

Personally I’m not a hand holder- I find it awkward and claustrophobic almost. That being said, I don’t find those who do hold hands to be childish or weird, it’s just a personal preference of mine not to hold hands a ton. 

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