Post # 31
mingogo4 : My Fiance and I are also very physically playful with each other: tickling, pinching, pillow fights, scaring each other once in a while. No pranks though. It’s good to laugh with each other, relationships are supposed to be fun after all. And romping around our house often leads to hot romps between the sheets, which is always a great benefit. So, I think you two are very normal, young and fun-loving.
With that being said though, we don’t play like that in front of others. If we are in public, with friends or with family, we may sneak a quick pinch…but generally, we wait until we get home. xoxo
Post # 32
My fiance and I goof around all the time. I like to sneak up behind him and yell “pants” and obviously pull down his pants. XD Only in the house of course! He got me cornered earlier and tickled me, because I like to turn words around on him. Putting cold hands/feet on each other, chasing each other around, weird name calling. Sometimes when we go for a walk at night, he’ll do an embarrassing whaling woman cry as I’m laughing hysterically and telling him to shut up. We’ll both throw random toddler tantrums and throw pillows or stomp feet when we ask favors of each other. Those are just some of the silly things.
Post # 33
mingogo4 : My Fiance and I are silly and joke around a lot but never prank each other or do anything at the other’s expense. I’d find this kind of guy annoying AF and don’t like to be around it.
Do you though boo, if you don’t mind it, what your friend said doesn’t matter.
Post # 34
- Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek
My Fiance and I play around with each other often but not like this. However, I don’t think what you described is abuse. If I were having dinner with you and this happened, I think I would be annoyed because the behavior you described sounds so immature/obnoxious.
Post # 35
mingogo4 : ok so this is weird because we’re really not prank people, but dh and i have this ongoing thing where we try to surprise each other with middle fingers. it’s like a game and the goal is to catch the person so off guard that they get momentarily pissed at themself, which of course then results in crazy laughter.
an example of a failed attempt: i pretended to drop something, pick it up, and turned around with a big middle finger in his face, BUT he didn’t flinch. he just looked at me and shook his head because he saw it coming. lol, i was like “DAMN IT!”
an example of a successful attempt: we were taking stuff out of the fridge, he turned to put things on the counter, and i said, “oh babe, can you take this too?!” he turns around and BAM middle finger. he just BURST out laughing and was so pissed, but not real pissed, funny pissed. it was awesome.
i know it’s weird but we have such a healthy back and forth, neither of us take ourselves really seriously and we would never actually name call or anything. lol, i guess it’s probably not for everyone, you do you OP.
Post # 36
mingogo4 : I don’t consider what you’re describing to be just horseplay. My husband is friends with a couple that behave similarly to what you’ve described and it’s incredibly uncomfortable and frankly embarrassing in a public setting. What you want to do privately is fine as long as it makes you happy. The pranks, play bickering, etc probably do seem strange at best and abusive at worst to some people so limit those sort of behaviors to when you guys are alone.
Post # 37
Would definitely feel very uncomfortable if a friend and their SO did things like this around me. If you are truly A-OK with the behavior, thank your friend for looking out for you and explain your dynamic. I’d also tone things down in public, as i’d put this in the PDA category.
Post # 38
Sounds annoying AF to me and I’d probably find it pretty irritating to be around you two but if you’re into it that’s all that matters
I’d also just be careful that genuine concerns don’t slip into your ‘joke bickering’ over time as that’s a very unhealthy way to resolve things
Post # 39
Ahh. My FH is LOVES PDA, to a point where we’ve had discussions about toning it down in front of my family (just because they are a bit more conservative). But in front of his family friends, I really don’t mind at all and actually enjoy the attention, and if he doesn’t mind or think it will offend them, then I tend not to either. He’s a very independent soul and tends to walk to the beat of his own drum without caring what others think, something I love about him.
This friend I have is relatively new, so maybe he misread her comfort ability, maybe he doesn’t care, either way, meh.
Even though physically he is much stronger than me, I don’t think it’s about a dominance thing. We are BOTH extremely competitive, in pretty much everything. At the gym, during board games, etc, so even though he gets an automatic win for strength, I can outrun him, hah. So, if he wants to try to “dominate” me, I’ll just remind him of things I’m better at 🙂
I don’t think we’ve ever been so obnoxious as to draw attention to ourselves in public, it’s usually sneaky stuff. Maybe with close friends and stuff we’ll be a bit more silly. Most of his friends are just as silly/immature/obnoxious so we fit right in. I guess she wasn’t as close as he read the situation to be. Ahh well.
Post # 40
I love having fun, but there’s nothing more annoying to me than when couples horseplay in public.
Post # 41
Fiance and I are not the prankish sort. He will sometimes pull a goofy face or whatever, then promptly remind himself that we are in public.
To be honest, if you enjoy what you two do and get something out of it, good. However, I would also be super uncomfortable if I had to endure a couple’s horseplay. I mean…if Fiance and I have had a few drinks with our friends I might kiss him on the cheek, but generally we are pretty reserved. I would consider toning it down a notch.
Post # 42
I agree about toning it down a notch in public. Part of being socially acceptable is making your behaviour acceptable so that others don’t feel uncomfortable, and it sounds as though the two of you regularly cross that line. Darling Husband is more playful than I am, but I am not at ALL agreeable to things like that in public. What we do in the confines of our own home is one thing, but the things that others witness? In that case it isn’t all about us; it is also about the people we are with.
Post # 43
We do sometimes… like tickling each other, wrestling in bed, etc.
I try to get him to stop though before it gets bad because last year we were tickling and stuff in bed in the dark. He was coming up from laying down, I was going down towards him, and his head collided with mine fast and hit my nose. My nose is crooked now and I can’t breathe as well or smell much. But I’ve hit it little times since then (with him). Last week I ran into the wall in the dark while coming back from using the restroom and it made it worse.
I’ll probably get a nose job ten years from now! I’m too scared to do it now in case it comes out weird. And it’s not that bad
Post # 44
mingogo4 : Over the top PDAs in front of his family friends because you enjoy the attention? This is so weird.
Post # 45
Darling Husband and I tickle and poke each other, make weird noises, etc, but we don’t play pranks on each other- or do anything like that in public. Honestly, your behavior would make me quite uncomfortable…. It seems very childish.