Do you invite family who have issues with other family members?

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 16
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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littlebeans :  Also adding that everyone needs to act like adults. Siblings fight, it’s no reason to miss another sibling’s big day.

Post # 17
1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

If it was me, I’d invite him. It’s not your fight, you had nothing to do with it and don’t have all the details. To me, not inviting him but inviting his brother feels like you’re sending him a message that you’re taking Lily’s side in the argument. If he’s uncomfortable, he doesn’t have to come, but if they make things up down the line, do you want it to have damaged your relationship with him?

Post # 18
2214 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

 I didnt invite my uncle. He cheated on his wife of 45 years,  2 months before the wedding.  I invited my Aunt and their daughter instead. No way, i wanted that cheat at our wedding. Also half of his siblings weren’t speaking to him.  Awkward 

Post # 19
7229 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Your father and step mother sound ridiculous here and this kind of dumb petty shit is how people end up going decades with no relationships with their families. It’s stupid and would be unwise for you to follow their immature guidance. Especially given the fact that you don’t even know what’s going on.

If YOU and your SO like Pierre, then invite him and tell your dad and Lily to suck it up and use their manners if he shows up. Tell them to bring their pearls and smelling salts in case of a fit of the vapors since they have such a flare for the dramatic. How a man ruins a wedding by not showing up (and then everyone just goes along with that asinine explanation) is beyond me – unless he’s the groom.

And when our parents do stupid, melodramatic things, we should not indulge them any more than we indulge children having tantrums.

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