Do you invite mother of the groom to get ready with you?

posted 6 days ago in Wedding Related
Post # 16
1827 posts
Buzzing bee

I didn’t but I don’t like my Mother-In-Law lol. I think if you have a good relationship then it’s nice xo

Post # 17
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@summerbride21:  I don’t think you are at all required to invite your Future Mother-In-Law to get ready with you especially as you said yourself that you want the people there surrounding you on your big day that you feel the most comfortable with and your Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t fit into that category for you. Since you also mentioned you sometimes get stressed out right before big events I think having someone you won’t feel really comfortable with would make that stress elevated. I would say no.

I would maybe talk to your fiance about maybe having him invite his mom to get ready for him if you guys still want her to feel like a big part of the day as the mother of the groom.

Just to be clear there is absolutely nothing wrong with a bride inviting her Future Mother-In-Law to get ready with her right before the wedding but I also never understood wouldn’t the mother of the groom prefer to get ready with her own son. I don’t think it even crossed my mind to invite my now Mother-In-Law to get ready with me and I’m close to her because in my mind I figured she would want to get ready with her son and be with him his final moments before his wedding.


That’s what my Mother-In-Law ended up doing was getting ready with my fiance and it ended up working out great. As far as I know she was happy to have those last minutes before the wedding with her son. Coming from that perspective maybe that’s an idea you can bring up to your fiance.


Post # 18
738 posts
Busy bee

No, you are under no obligation to invite your Mother-In-Law.

Post # 19
2275 posts
Buzzing bee

Absolutely not.  My Mother-In-Law monopolized my day enough as it was, making it about her.  I knew that having her in the house with us as we were getting ready would be insufferable, and call me crazy, but I wanted to enjoy myself before the wedding.  Ha.

Post # 20
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I have a good relationship with Mother-In-Law and didn’t invite her as there was no room in the schedule to offer her hair and makeup. I did invite her to come down for a glass of champagne before as the boys were getting ready in the same hotel as us just one floor down.

Post # 21
983 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2022

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@summerbride21:  no way in hell would i invite someone to help me get ready that i 100% didn’t want to be there or who made comments that made me feel self conscious about how i was getting ready. i do not plan on asking my Mother-In-Law to get ready with me, i have nothing against her but she lives in a different state and im not like super close to her. i would want feel free to just be 100% myself that day and be around ppl who are all really close and know each other. i don’t want to have to feel “on” that early in the day and like i’m hosting which i would feel if Mother-In-Law was there – id be so worried about making sure she knew everyone and where everything was and making her comfortable that i wouldnt get to focus on myself on the one day i am allowed to. your wedding day is about YOU, it’s not nearly as big a day for her and if she wants to make it special for herself she is welcome to plan that.

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Post # 22
5527 posts
Bee Keeper

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@summerbride21:  I didn’t at my first wedding because I hated her; I won’t at my second, even though I like her, because I want just my parents and best friends there, and OH likewise wants his parents getting ready with him.

It’s kind of stressful and high emotion on the morning, and I just wouldn’t feel as comfortable with people there that I don’t know REALLY well 

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