(Closed) Do you invite Shower No’s to the Wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1580 posts
Bumble bee

I think yes, definitely.

Post # 4
1982 posts
Buzzing bee

Yes, you’d still want them to attend your wedding right? There are plenty of reasons people can’t come to showers, or possibly couldnt’ afford a gift. That doesn’t mean I don’t want them to celebrate with me!

Post # 5
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

yes! they probably just had some sort of conflict that kept them from coming to the shower, that doesn’t mean they won’t want to come to the wedding.

Post # 6
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m only inviting people to the shower that are invited to the wedding anyway.

The only exception would be co workers at a work shower.

Post # 8
546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t see why you wouldn’t invite them to the wedding.  Showers are definitely second to a wedding.  So, maybe they weren’t able to attend a wedding shower, but I would assume more guests would make more of an effort to attend a wedding. 

Post # 9
1901 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You are not putting anyone out by sending them an invitation. You are inviting them to join in the celebration of your marriage! It’s not a summons or a demand for a gift and it would be strange (and not appropriate) to not invite them to the wedding just because they couldn’t come to your shower. Unless, like the pp siad, it was a work shower. Also, keep in mind, that some people like to buy one bigger gift for the wedding rather than smaller engagement or shower gifts and a wedding gift.

Post # 10
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yes! Most likely they just had a scheduling conflict related to the shower, and will be offended if they’re not invited to the wedding. 🙂 

Post # 11
2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Yes, anyone sent a shower invite should be sent a wedding invite.

Post # 12
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yes, send them an invite to the wedding!

Post # 13
4663 posts
Honey bee

I definitely would invite shower “no’s”. Especially since I just RSVP’d to a BS, no. Sometimes it’s just unavoidable. Mine was because of work commitments. Other’s my just not be able to afford to travel to the BS. I did, however, send the bride-to-be a gift from her registry.

Post # 15
402 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Can I just add — I’m chuckling because my former mother-in-law thought showers were tacky, so when my aunt and mom decided to throw one for me — she co-opted all the ladies in my ex-husband’s family NOT to come.  So had we NOT invited all the shower no’s to the wedding, well, ex would barely have had anyone there — but I might have had an even better time (hehe)! Sure you should invite them roxy.

Post # 16
7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Most definitely.

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