Post # 17
I guess this was sort of different, but a few people didn’t RSVP at all for the engagement party. This really annoyed me, and they were borderline anyway… so I cut them off the wedding list. Don’t regret it at all 🙂 (It was quite useful actually to see who actually cared. I don’t want people there who aren’t excited and happy for us!)
Post # 18
I would say yes to inviting them even if they can’t make the engagement party, bach party or shower. There have been times that I couldn’t go to a friend’s party because of work or a show (I perform in the theater here) but I was able to make the wedding. It had nothing to do with if I cared about that person or was or wasn’t excited.
Post # 19
I would be more offended if I was invited to the shower and never got an invite to the wedding. Then it feels like your asking for a gift but don’t care enough about them to want them to be there on your big day.
There are lots of reasons why someone might not have been able to come to your shower. Perhaps they had something else going on – or if money is tight, they would rather buy you a gift for the wedding or put the money toward travelling for the wedding or a babysitter or seomthing.