(Closed) Do you judge people with small e-rings?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you ladies with large e-rings pre-judge women with smaller e-rings?
    All the time! : (87 votes)
    7 %
    Never! : (593 votes)
    50 %
    Only if it's a gemstone! : (24 votes)
    2 %
    If it looks fake, I'm all over it! : (64 votes)
    5 %
    On occasion... sad but true. : (412 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 47
    4523 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @weddingbound:  Exactly. I had the option of a 1.5ct diamond solitaire that we chose back in December ….but found a black diamond halo I felt was more “me.” Would I have loved that big ol’ diamond? Of course, but I like that my ring isn’t something you see every day 🙂

    Post # 48
    8686 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @LilRhodyGem:  I dont know about other people but my hand is rarely out or up high enough for anyone to look closely and I’m right-handed. Unless someone asks I just dont understand how people could really see it.

    Post # 49
    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Interesting…I’ve honestly never really thought about it.  I mean, I guess if I notice someone’s ring, I’ll make an internal comment to myself if I like it or don’t like it…but that’s 99.9% of the time based on the style of it.  For example, I prefer a thinner band and if I saw someone with a ring with a thicker band, their ring wouldn’t really appeal to me.  I wouldn’t care of the stone was .10 or 3 carats…style wouldn’t be for me.  But judge them on it? Nah, I’m not that concerned with what other people have or wear.

    Post # 50
    341 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t judge.

    I kinda feel bad about the size of my stone and what it says. It’s a 1.5 carat equivalent in moissanite and I wanna come out and say “Hey this perfect looking stone didn’t actually cost my husband 40k” but he isn’t keen on me telling people it’s not diamond.

    Post # 51
    122 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Absolutely not.  Everyone’s ring is special to them so even if I personally don’t care for the style it’s none of my business and it’s not my ring.  I would never pass judgment or make a rude comment about anyone’s ring, jewellery, or anything expensive in general.

    Post # 52
    3101 posts
    Sugar bee

    @LilRhodyGem:  Our rings are like us–all different!  I think a ring is a very personal symbol for each woman who wears it, and as long as you love your ring, NOTHING ELSE MATTERS!  Plus I love ring porn of all shapes and sizes!

    Post # 54
    6354 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @gelaine22:  I think it’s more like people can feel more free to speak on the internet.

    In person it’s pretty hard to speak of such things without it coming across as personally-directed, and affecting important relationships more. The distance of the internet can facilitate the communication of more difficult truths. It’s easier to remember that people are speaking in generalities and their own experience, and not implying something about you personally, since they don’t even know you. There’s a reason a lot of teenagers go to the internet for sex advice (seriously, that is apparently a really common thing for teens these days).

    Post # 55
    170 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I don’t judge the “size” of the ring as much as I judge whether it is kept clean and the style of the ring itself.  There are some “large” rings I simply do not care for and the same is true with smaller rings, however, there are beautiful rings at all sizes! I’m much less likely to love a small cluster ring that is dirty and missing a stone or two than a small cluster that appears clean and well taken care of, the same is true for small solitaires, and it is DEFINITELY true for larger rings! large rings, no matter how large/good quality/etc, that are dirty are NOT pretty! clean your rings ladies it makes ALL the difference!!!! Additionally, I’m much more likely to judge someone with a ring that clearly looks “fake.” NO i DO NOT mean like moissanite-not-a-diamond “fake” (which drives me nuts, I have a diamond ring and moissanite earrings, they’re both stones I don’t care what other people say), I mean like $1 50 year old CZ (cloudy, chipped, bad cut, etc) “fake,” and again more because I find the style to be not the best rather than judging the stone wearer for wearing a “fake” large ring, all rings are “real” rings, but again thats another argument.  


    Post # 56
    4474 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I notice rings, but I wouldn’t say I judge them in the sense of “wow, her Fiance must be cheap”.  I just like to look at rings – the judgements I might have about rings have more to do with the style of the ring than the size, and it’s just a matter of “I like/don’t like that style”.  I’ve seen beautiful rings of all stone sizes.


    Post # 57
    453 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Honestly, I don’t even notice it unless I’m curious and looking to see if someone is engaged or married. I don’t think badly about larger rings on other people at all, however I think I would feel self-conscious and like I was being “flashy” (isn’t that funny how it works, I don’t think about other people but I feel like they’d think about me). So that’s why I pointed my Fiance in the direction of smaller rings.

    I hope no one would judge my Fiance based on the size of my diamonds. He was willing to spend more, but he thought this suited me better. And it does. It’s beautiful, but low-key, and that’s how I like it. It just suits my personal style more.

    Post # 58
    2055 posts
    Buzzing bee

    LOL No. Idg why I should even care about the size.

    Post # 59
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @LilRhodyGem:  No I don’t, but to be honest I do sometimes judge people who obsess over the specs and details of their ring/others’ rings. The ring board in general never interests me, and I think it just surprised me how people really study this stuff. But this probably has more to do with the fact that when Fiance proposed he didn’t ask me to shop with him, or ask what size I wanted, or anything like that so I guess I found it odd that some girls get into all this detail.

    Post # 60
    12291 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    In my area I would surmise, perhaps incorrectly,  that a small stone belongs to a  couple who met young, worked their way up,  and wear their original ering for the sentiment since it is  likely they could afford an upgrade at this point.    There are a range of ring sizes among my women friends and absolutely no one judges! 


    Post # 61
    3039 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @CARA1978: Just want to add one thing to your list, you can also have a smaller stone because you rather pay for quality than quantity. 

    My e-ring is 0.55 ct, so I don’t qualify as a bee with a large stone. However, I’m from Sweden where most bands are plain. That doesn’t mean that I judge my friends back home or their FI’s. I’m just happy for the fact that we all found love!

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