(Closed) Do you kiss and tell? (a bit long)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Do you kiss and tell?
    Give me the dirt! I want to hear everything! : (13 votes)
    16 %
    Heck no! What goes on between us is private. : (56 votes)
    71 %
    Other: Explained below. : (10 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I am shuddering in embarrassment right now just thinking about this.  I would have been completely mortified if this had happened to me – I guess that makes me a prude also!

    I hope she has more sense than to say anything anywhere nearly that inappropriate at the wedding.

    Post # 4
    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Yeeah I wouldn’t be comfortable with that at all. My idea of a bachelorette party is getting dressed up and hanging out with all my female friends at afternoon tea (Or something equally hyper feminine) lol. I definitely wouldn’t want it to be all about sex!

    Post # 5
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    some people dont mind this, but she should have respected your wishes. I personally dont kiss a tell, i believe certain things should stay just between two ppl, so i dont think you’re a prude at all. 

    Post # 6
    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I don’t kiss and tell, but I don’t mind talking about sex in general and swapping stories with my girlfriends. I think it’s pretty standard to push the boundaries a little bit during a bachelorette, but what your Bridesmaid or Best Man did was way too far. Obviously if the bride is too mortified to have a good time then you’ve failed. 🙁

    Post # 8
    3601 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    I voted other.

    The way I see it, if I want to share the down and dirty about the down and dirty with my girls, that’s one thing. I don’t, however, want to make a board game out of it.

    Post # 9
    1129 posts
    Bumble bee

    First – I saw your boudoir pictures (which were GORG!) so I officially say no, you’re not a prude, you’re a brave beautiful woman!

    I would not want to be discussing my past history with a bunch of people right before I was about to get married – and if I found out my Fiance had been doing this at his bachelor party, I’d have been livid.  We all have history but the past is the past for a reason.  It sounds to me like you handled this fairly awkward situation with a lot of grace and class considering how classless the Bridesmaid or Best Man acted.

    Post # 10
    193 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010 - University of Toronto Faculty Club

    Uh…gross.  I also would not personally be okay with this.  I don’t really have conversations with my friends or sisters about stuff like that and I definitely wouldn’t be interested in spending my bachelorette talking about all these exes.  I’m so sorry it wasn’t the type of party you wanted.  

    Post # 11
    1810 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I definitely am not comfortable with kissing and telling– I never have been. I kind of feel like, for me at least, blabbing about it later totally cheapens the intimacy of it. My FH is the same way, so it’s nice to have something that is just between us and that no one gets details about.

    And I don’t even like to think about my ex’s, let alone talk about them and our sexual history. Gross.

    Post # 14
    1129 posts
    Bumble bee

    @bakerella: Exactly.  Two words. Booty Shot. 🙂  As one curvy girl to another, those inspired me!  Don’t let this one part of what sounds like an otherwise decent party get to you.  I would have been peeved but your girl sounded like she DID kind of lose her marbles.  I’m throwing a bachelorette for another bride next weekend and doing some really fun, silly favors for it (typical penis suckers and straws, mini packs of lube, etc) but those are for everyone, not just the bachelorette.  And frankly, I bet most of us will use em!  I also flat out asked her – how far is too far and what would honestly embarrass you in an uncomfortable (not just fun loving) way.

    I really feel like it is important to respect the bride.  It’s sad that she didn’t do that but also sad that no one stopped her from doing what she did before it happened in the first place.  If she were my friend I would have shut her down PRONTO with that idea!

    Post # 15
    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I have nightmares of scenarios like this. You are absolutely sensible to be mortified! I am too afraid to have a bachelorette party for this reason. I sympathize entirely and hope you are still friends with the girl who, as Christalynn put it, lost her marbles.

    Post # 16
    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We had two bachelorette parties.  One was at Dave & Buster’s (restaurant with arcade games).  One was at a Korean bathhouse.  Neither of them included discussions of our past sex lives.  Having the main entertainment being mortifying the bride just sounds kind of immature.

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