Post # 92
I don’t think it’s inappropriate and bad…but it would make me uncomfortable. My dad will give me a hug and kiss me on top of the head as he does…but I cringe when family goes to kiss the lips or cheek, I kinda hate it.
@sept22insf: No, I don’t think I need to get a grip or that my head is in the gutter…just that it makes me uncomfortable to be kissed on the face by anyone but my Darling Husband. I think it’s fairly normal to associate kissing on the mouth with romantic intentions.
Post # 93
When I was little (like <6) I would do the whole MWWWAAAH and kiss my parents on the lips. Now days it’s more of the biiiig hug and kiss on the cheek.
Post # 94
@Wonderstruck: i have no issue if it’s not comfortable FOR YOU, but otherwise, is anyone implying that there is some incestuous interest going on between me and my parents? Nuts.
Post # 95
The only people I’ve seen kiss their parents on the lips are usually WASPs. I could easily be wrong about that, but most ethnic families I’ve seen don’t do that.
My family is very affectionate, both physically and verbally, but we don’t kiss on the mouth.
Post # 96
I voted inapprorpiate and bad but that’s not entirely accurate. I don’t think it’s inappropriate/bad for everyone, but it skeevs me out.
Post # 97
I never have, and I will never kiss my kids on the mouth after they’re toddlers. My Fiance will not either. I have big problems with it, but that stems from childhood sexual abuse, so I just can’t separate the innocent act from the dirty.
I don’t condemn other families who do this, and logically I know there is no sexual charge behind it for them.
Post # 98
I personally don’t, but I don’t think its that weird. In my family we don’t kiss even on the cheek really, but FI’s family are mouth kissers (just pecks). I don’t think its all that weird even though I don’t really do it…
Post # 99
@ArtDecoLisa: I’m actually surprised too! My family never did it but I don’t think its all that weird. I guess I’ve seen it enough that it doesn’t bother me? Hmm… don’t know.
Post # 100
You should add some more choices to the poll …. um I think when they are little it’s fine. I haven’t kissed my dad on the mouth since I was about 8 or so? I certainly wouldn’t do it now. We are huge huggers and cheek kissers and growing up I probably heard 10times a day “I Love You” and that’s a huge thing in our family, my brother’s even say it to me now.
Post # 101
My dad kisses on the cheek, my mom kisses on the mouth. Also my sisters and I kiss on the mouth. My brothers don’t like or accept kisses at all, even hugging them is a big deal.
Post # 102
My dad has past on, but no, never did that. I think that’s odd. Cheek it is.
Post # 103
It makes me uncomfortable so no, I do not kiss anyone on the lips (except Darling Husband and former boyfriends). Not that I sexualize it, but because kissing spreads germs. Just thinking about it makes me queazy.
Post # 105
@kimm99: “I didn’t answer your poll because I realize people think differently and there isn’t necessarily anything “wrong” about it…but I cannot wrap my mind around a 20-30 something year old man or woman kissing their parents on the lips.“
Honestly, I find it weird to kiss anyone on the mouth who isn’t your boyfriend/fiancé/husband/significant other etc. unless you or they are under five years old.
I find kissing on the mouth to be equated with romantic love, and it just feels strange to kiss a family member on the lips, not wrong per say, just weird.
My immediate and extended family (Mum especially) are very loving and affectionate, to quote @kimm99: “lots of cheek kissing, hugging, “love yous” etc but we’re not down with the lip kissing.“
FI-to-be’s family are cheek kissers too. We both get a hug and a peck on the check when we go to visit his dad and step mum, aunties and uncles etc. his cousins (under five) usually give lip kisses.
Post # 106
I don’t think it’s innapropriate. When I was a little girl, I kissed my dad on the mouth. I however, do not do that anymore. I think it’s a cultural thing, but not something my family does.