Post # 46
In my experience this is a very mediterranean norm. I have some Greek and Italian friends that find this normal. Not to speak for all mediterranean people, but this is just my experience.
I don’t have a mediterranean cell in my body, so no, I don’t do it myself XD
Post # 47
zzar45 : exactly. if you find it sexual to give your child a kiss on the mouth you should really question yourself. thats all im going to say about that
Post # 48
danibee5683 : I’ve done it by accident and I am not at all a fan. I’ll take a hug or peck on the cheek, thanks. I do find it weird and uncomfortable but to each their own! It’s certainly harmless if it’s just a peck.
Post # 49
To everyone who said it is appropriate: why?
What is inappropriate about it?
Post # 50
My family is the hug/air-cheek-peck type, but it doesn’t weird me out or gross me out when I see other families do it – either between adults or between young kids and adults.
It’s a fully non-sexual form of affection but I can see why some people would be a bit uncomfortable with it if it’s not how they were raised.
To the couple of PP’s that said it was inappropriate – that’s a over the top and dramatic. It may not be what YOU do but it doesn’t make it wrong or out of bounds.
Post # 51
chocolateplease : Yes, kissing babies when someone has a cold sore can be very, very serious. Your poor cousin. That was the first time I really laid down the law hard with my Mother-In-Law when she went to attempt to kiss my infant son when she had a cold sore. I mean who does that?!!! He could have got herpes in his eyes/skin/mouth and neonatal herpes can, in about 30% of cases if it reaches the organs, be fatal. I was very pleased to see both my obstetrician and prenatal class teacher go over this.
Post # 52
I consider myself pretty close to my parents, but we barely even hug. Lol. Just didn’t grow up that way and we come from a mediterranean culture. I guess we are pretty standoffish Mediterraeneans. However, if I had a baby, I’m pretty sure I would kiss him or her on the lips occassionally.
Post # 53
desiderata : what’s even scarier is that you don’t even need to have an active cold sore to spread it. And, given that most adults have the herpes simplex virus that causes it, it is very risky to kiss babies on or near the mouth.
Post # 54
zzar45 : alfalfasprout10518 : I feel like most of us who perceive lip-kissing to be strange spoke up about feeling that way due to our own experiences. I don’t think anyone meant that people who do it are weird or inappropriate— just that we perceive the action that way based on our own upbringing. I also don’t think anyone meant to offend others.
TL;DR: for me, lip kissing kids is inappropriate for my own personal boundaries.
ETA: let me also say that I wouldn’t dare try telling other parents what is or isn’t an appropriate way of showing affection to their own children. The views I hold are for me and my future household only.
Post # 55
TheMrsTulip : maybe just based on our own upbringings/cultural/social backgrounds. For me, I didn’t have a very affectionate relationship with my family (not even hugging), so something about it just seems strange to me. Then again, I can’t even relate to people who hug their parents lol!
Post # 56
Nope. Never. Nada.
From a sanitary standpoint, this grosses me out. I don’t find it sexual. I just find it gross for an adult who has had his/her mouth in all kinds of places, faces and holes to touch a child’s mouth. Or, a more conservative relative. It’s bad enough that we have to blood test and background inquiry our potential sexual partners. I’m not sharing germs with 15 different people and their entire life history just because they want to say hello or show me affection.
Give me a darn hug, instead.
Post # 57
- Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK
TheMrsTulip : Do you mean at any age?
Kissing your toddler on the lips is different to me than kissing my dad as a 34 year old. Not saying anyone is creepy if they do that, I just don’t know anyone as an adult who does that. A cultural thing I guess.
Post # 58
I kiss my children on the lips. Even now they are adults. Is a very pure and delicate kiss. I love it.
I don’t kiss other family members. My future Father-In-Law kisses my cheek and tells me he loves me.I think it’s adorable. No other family members kiss me.
Post # 59
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
No, my family is not affectionate. We don’t say I love you or kiss on the cheek, just the occasional hug. Now that I write that out I realise it sounds cold but we are actually super close!!! Just not touchy.
I remember the first time I went to a friend’s house and saw her kiss her parents onthe lips I was like “WTFFFFF” but I guess it’s normal for others.
Post # 60
I didn’t grow up with that and no one in my culture does it so it’s very strange to me. To each their own but it’s not something I will ever do or teach my kids to do. Hugging is a big thing though in our culture and family so that’s what we stick to. I do kiss my mom on the cheek and vice versa. My dad gives the occasional forehead kiss. That’s about the extent of it.