(Closed) Do You Know Any Real Life Narcissists?

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Post # 33
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

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@allyfally:  I really don’t think you are one!

My ex was one.. and I am pretty sure my father is one (haven’t talked to him in YEEEARS).

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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@Coral99:  Did you hear it on Coast to Coast? I’ve listened to coast to coast quite alot over the years; and lately my dad believes absolutely everything he hears on it.

Nope, I don’t believe they know what they’re doing at all. They just pretend to know what they’re doing.

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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@Coral99:  And yeah, my dad did the same thing with the bragging. He would brad about how I was such a computer whiz (I wasn’t) and how I was such a great amazing pianist (I wasn’t). He did come to the odd school play or teacher meeting but other than that he didn’t play much of a role in my life. He never once contributed to any of my tuition or extra curricular stuff. 

Then when my parents divorced, he went to live in the dominican republic full time, so he was almost completely absent for the duration of my teen years. 

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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@Coral99:  

Thanks for the good wishes. Smile

It took a long time for me to reach this point. I used to be extremely angry at my mother. I learned to access the compassion I have been blessed with. 

My mother is in many ways a victim of her circumstances. She was physically abused as a child and she was raised to believe that women are supposed to take shit from men. I feel sad for my mom when she talks about wishing she dated more before she married my dad or her regrets about not attending college. 

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Coral99:  I know a couple people. I don’t entertain it from them, but I feel bad for their kids. 

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Coral99:  yes, FI’s best man. They’ve been friends for 10+ years. This guy used to weigh 200+ lbs and he finally decided to lose weight, good for him! Well, he’s completely changed and if you aren’t perfect and skinny he has no problem telling you. He’s only had one girlfriend, which was pre weight loss, and now he won’t even give girls the time of day because he wants a perfect red head. He’s so worried about himself that he no longer connects to the people around him. The one thing that pushes me over the edge is that he “fat bashes” on FB. He calls out ugly and fat people in his statuses saying, “hate when ugly girls think they can have a chance with me” or “To all you big ladies out there, you’re just plain fat not “chubby”. I’m not skinny and I hate that I know he’s judging me. Everytime I see him I just dread his stories about his workout, what he plans on eating, how we should eat better, and how his life sucks because his clothes are too big. 

omg so sorry I went on a rant there. 

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Coral99:  My father. 7 kids with 5 different women and PROUD OF THAT. He abandoned most of us, and doesn’t seem to understand why that might be a bad thing… :/

Post # 43
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

A guy I dated for about 2 months when I was in grad school. He had all the classic type of traits, he was the best at certain things, no one else understood him, he could only work on his art without any interruption since he had to concentrate so hard on his masterpieces. 

Things ended after he was working on art and stopped answering any calls since he was in his cocoon of “doing amazing things” and couldn’t be bothered with people. 

When we finally talked a few weeks later, I mentioned that I thought he had some very narcissistic tendancies and he told me he had been in therapy in the past as suggested by an ex-girlfriend and the therapist also thought he was a narcissist and had nothing to offer him. 

Eek. Glad I got rid of him sooner than later

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I dated a narcissist and I believe he was actually a high functioning sociopath. Super fucking charming when he wanted to be, but absolutely horrible. He was a cheater (not on me, we never got that serious) and a jerk to most people. he’d group text lots of people about hanging out, and then choose what he thought was most interesting and ignore everyone else, things like that. He preened, and thought he was superior to everyone, and was smart enough that he could justify that fantasy to himself. After a bit, he was an ass to me & left town for a few months so he didn’t have to deal. We were friendly after he got back bc by then I didn’t care & we had mutual friends, but even though he was back with an ex, he did. he would text me he loved me when we were all together. he didnt, but he couldnt deal that i was not under his spell, he wanted to make me compete with her. I told him he was hilarious (sarcastically.) We got on ok though until the night i told him i’d never sleep with him again bc i had self respect. He then started texting me things like that he had fantasies about impregnating me & then leaving me. It was clearly a power fantasy. He could not deal with not being desired or in control. 

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes it has come to light in the last year that a close relative of mine definitely is and apparently others have noticed this long before me. Not professional diagnosis but behavioural for sure. 

Post # 46
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Sugar bee

@Coral99:  My abusive ex, who I lived with for 8 years is the definition of narcissitic personality disorder. To the point of dressing in camo, wearing dog tags and letting people think he was in the military. He’s the worlds biggest bullshitter, whatever it takes to make him important and gets him attention. Even now that we’ve been broken up for 3 years, in the very short conversations we have, it is abundantly clear that he hasn’t changed a bit.

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