(Closed) Do you know anyone that wouldn't accept anything less than a large diamond?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 227
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@musician32992:  

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@OrchidsandCandles:  

Yes! It’s still racist and offensive. You can’t claim a pass because you share the ethnicity. “Indian girls are spoiled, materialistic, bitchy indulged princesses” isn’t racist?? Okey dokey…lol. Have at it.

Post # 228
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

@1inthechamber:  1. I did not generalise (i.e. ‘ALL INDIAN GIRLS ARE LIKE THIS). I merely said MOST of those who are daughters to well-to-do professionals have this mentality due to their upbringing. I have met some who are really awesome and we get along great. Otherwise I avoid the community where possible. 

 

2. If you are going to quote me, please do so correctly. I never called them bitches. Putting words in someone else’s mouth is inaccurate and immature.

 

3. If it’s racist to make a general observation about people IN MY OWN SOCIO-ECONOMIC GROUP, then so be it lol. 

 

Post # 229
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@OrchidsandCandles:  Ms. Orchids, I didn’t say you called them bitches. I said you called them “bitchy”. I don’t want to argue with you. I’m just pointing out to you that your statements are offensive. A really good way to determine if your statements are offensive or not is when you have someone who is OFFENDED BY THEM…lol. I’m offended. If you substitute “american girls” (since you are not american) then you’ll see how they may be construed as such. I can see you really didn’t mean it that way though so carry on. Not another word from the PC precinct.

 

Post # 231
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I know a girl EXACTLY like this. She actually went on a date with one of my friends, and he cut her off after that because she told him “I want the cars, the shoes, the clothes, the bags, the lifestyle. I want it all.” ON THEIR FIRST DATE. She definitely tries to “keep up with the Joneses” and have the same shoes and hair, etc, as a very wealthy mutual friend of ours. I can just see her demanding a 3+ ct. ring from her bf. He’s actually a co-worker of mine, and has no plans to marry for many years (5+). 

I have no problem with people buying big rings if its within their budget and they want it. I have a ~2 ct center stone, with another ct. of diamonds around it. I would have said yes to a twist tie, but this fit our budget, and I adore it. I would NEVER demand a certain size, but hell, I wouldn’t have turned down the ring I got. I love my Fiance for who he is, not what he buys me. 

Post # 232
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@musician32992:  yup. I had a friend who wanted a certain type of ring (not a 2ct Tiffany ring but something nice-cant rememberer details) but both her and her BF (at the time) were in grad school. He was willing to give her what she wanted but she was upset that he was taking too long to purpose. Sigh. I thought she was crazy and him too. Anyway she’s way more chill now and they are happily married. 

Post # 233
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Helper bee

MY SO’s brother’s fiance is very materialistic IMO. She went out and picked out her own ring which was $11,000. My boyfriends brother could not afford this ring. He had to borrow $8,000 dollars from my SO because he didn’t have all of it. Then there was me admiring her ring thinking “…..my boyfriend paid for most of your fking ring….” Thankfully his brother paid him back though, but honestly? If he can’t afford he can’t afford it. LIVE WITHIN YOUR MEANS PEOPLE jeez.

 

 

 

Post # 235
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Oh my goodness, I had just gotten engaged when my friend saw my ring and announced she wanted a 2 carat minimum or she would not say yes.  She made me feel like my ring was so tiny!!  (And it’s a 1.5 carat center stone!!!  That’s not easy to do!!) 

Post # 236
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Busy bee

@OrchidsandCandles:  wow, thanks for educating us bees. That is an eye opener. The same could be said about Chinese affairs, with the exception we put emphasis on bigger parties and inviting as much people as we can with expensive foods.

 

Post # 237
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2018 - Sandals Barbados

Hahah i love this thread and all of its responses!  I did a year at a private college, and the things I would hear are the most unrealistic life goals I have ever heard of.  Most of them want $20k+ Tiffany rings, and just want to go to school to get the Mrs degree.  My fiance and I both had “demands” (if you will) that we wanted in a ring. The first ring he purchased, was 1ctw, with a .5 princess solitare. BEAUTIFUL, but just not what I wanted “long term”.  We had just purchased our first home, so finances weren’t ideal.  Now that things are settled, and we are both making sufficient income, we did an upgrade to meet both expectations, and we couldn’t more be happy or in love with our decision. With that being said, I feel like the size, price, ect all depends on your means of living. If you make enough money that a $20k diamond is a realistic purchase, then you demand on.  

Post # 238
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Love this thread! I don’t know anyone like this though. When Fiance and I first began discussing engagement rings, I originally wanted a Tiffany’s until I discovered antique, Edwardian rings. even though my 1ct sapphire is over 80 years old, I’m pretty certain it was made for me, lol.

Post # 239
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t know anyone like this…

I myself dreamed of a big stone (I consider 1 carat to be huge). Fiance proposed with what I thought was a .5

As it turns out it is a .31, it just looks bigger because of my tiny fingers, lol. 

I love my ring, and I love my Fiance, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t envy my friend who has smaller fingers than me and is sporting a 1 carat ring. 

There is no way in hell I would say no to his proposal because he didn’t spend ”enough”. Hey, I still got a diamond ring, and it’s a canadian diamond ;), haha

Post # 240
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yes I do. She picks her boyfriends based on the size of their bank account and the status of their job. She has also made comments about how she would not accept a ring as small as mine.

Post # 241
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Blushing bee

I think we had the opposite issue. SO insisted on a more expensive ring, while I was trying to convince him on a seriously cheap one. I was fussy about the style I liked – but at the same time I went out of my way to show him cheap, easily affordable alternatives. We compromised in the end. 🙂

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